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Section 1: Course Introduction
Lecture 1 : Welcome to the course
Hello and welcome to “Learn To Love More, and become ALL that you were born to be”.
LOVING MORE is the key to becoming all that you were born to be. Love is the spirit of life, and makes life the best that it can be. And you’re part of life so your spirit is love too, and that love can make your life the best that it can be – which you know already, don’t you – there’s nothing like love to get your spirit going!
So, in this course I’m going to show you how to understand more of what love is, how to find more love inside you, and how to give more of it out into your world,
You’ll learn to love yourself more, love family and friends more, even love strangers on the street more! And love people where you work, more, in groups or teams you’re a member of, in your community, and even in the wider world too!
And you’ll learn how you can make more very good things happen, while you’re out there doing your loving!
My name’s Philip Snow and I’ll be your instructor throughout the course.
I founded a not-for-profit organisation called New Living, back in 2004, based in the North Midlands of England, with a mission to help create a more loving world; and in 2011 I became a board member of The Love Foundation, another not-for-profit, based in Florida in the United States; The Love Foundation’s mission is to inspire people to love unconditionally.
So you can see that, encouraging, inspiring and enabling you to love more is very much my mission in life, my heartfelt mission!
Well before the end of the course you’ll have discovered that love is a whole lot more than we generally give it credit for, and that you too are a whole lot more than you may have realised; and not only that, but the combination of that greater love, and that greater you, is an extremely powerful combination, capable of making very, very good things happen.
If you’re the kind of person who feels that there could be a whole lot more loving in your world, I made this course especially for you!
Are you open-minded? You’ll need to be!
Are you excited about this? Excellent!
Are you ready to make a start? Then let’s go!
Lecture 2 : Make A Start – To Open Your Heart!
I’ll start the course, in Section 2, by giving you a number of simple, practical exercises which will help you to learn to love more, straightaway. That’s because I’m thinking you might be wanting to know that you’ll get some immediate results from the course, rather than you having to go through the whole length and breadth and depth of what I’m going to explain to you before you can find out: how much more love you have to give, when you’ll be able to do that, and what the benefits will be. We’ll do some of that straightaway; and each section will give you more; you won’t have to wait.
But even before we go on to Section 2, here’s an exercise you can practise right now, in the next few minutes, and get an immediate result from, and adopt as a lifelong practice.
Go to someone, someone close to you or someone you’ve never met before. Say something to them, it doesn’t matter what, so long as it’s appropriate and is respectful, and courteous and kind, like a simple, friendly, “Good morning!”.
While you’re talking with them, find something about that person that you could say you love. It could be anything. It could be something about the way they look, the way they talk, some difference between yourself and them, if they’re shy, or keen to talk. It could be something for which you might feel some compassion, or something which suggests a like-mindedness or some other kind of connection between you. It could be something you admire about them, or something that makes you smile, particularly something that you realise is making your eyes soften and your whole face and your voice relax, which will suggest that your heart is warming to them.
You need to find something about them that you feel you can love. It’s not that hard. Everyone’s lovable, much more than most people realise, and, certainly, one of the purposes of this course is to show how true this is, perhaps in a way you might not be expecting.
Preferably, at the beginning of your conversation with someone, smile. You’ll feel relaxed and more positive. At the very least, it’s a good way of opening the exchange, even though it’s not essential for this exercise.
If you manage to see something about that person that you feel you can love in some way, to some degree, and it’s really very easy, see if you get a good reaction of some sort from the other person, a smile, or a softening in their body language. Sometimes you will, sometimes you won’t. If you don’t, don’t go thinking it’s your fault; there are lots of reasons why other people may not always want to talk.
If you’ve never consciously practised this exercise before, there you are: something that will help you to love more. Giving someone your time, courtesy and attention, all of which can be acts of love.
Now do that with everyone you meet, always.
You do have to put in a bit of effort into it, but it’s not so hard. If you don’t find something to love about someone, I’d venture to say you’re not really putting your heart into it. So put your heart into it! Or failing everything, you can just decide that you love them anyway!
In the Resources section of this lecture you’ll find a worksheet you can download. The purpose of this is to keep a record of some of your experiences and progress. Make notes of what you saw in a person that you hadn’t been so conscious of before, how that made you feel, and whether you got a reaction from the other person, and what it was.
So now, before you go on with this course, get yourself out there and find someone that you can find something to love about. Make some notes about how you got on.
And then we’ll go on to Section 2 and start opening your heart some more.
Section 2 : Opening Your Heart
Lecture 3 : Introduction To Opening Your Heart
The purpose of this section is to open your heart some more, so you can feel more love, but first of all we need to look at whether the heart actually is where we feel love; of course we normally talk about feeling love in our heart.
We say, “my heart is full of love, my heart is overflowing with love, my heart is broken”, and so on, and we use the heart shape to represent love. So we all seem to agree that the heart is where we feel love.
But, is this just a figure of speech, or do we literally feel love in our heart? It’s important that we have some sense of this, because we do need to feel the love we’re learning to give.
A biologist will say that the heart can’t feel emotions. And that’s true, it can’t, but the biologist is talking about the physical heart; in fact we have another heart which, here in the west, we don’t hear much about, and many biologists would even deny the very existence of it.
In the chest, more in the centre of the chest whereas the physical heart is to the left of centre, there’s an energy centre which has been known from ancient times in India as the heart chakra. It’s not really a physical thing, more an energy centre, perhaps on the borderline between physical and non-physical. It’s part of our endocrine system, which is connected to regulating the emotions, but I’m not going to go into any detail over that. I just want you to know that when we clasp our hand to our chest and say, “my heart is exploding with love”, we really are feeling the love in our heart, that is, in our heart chakra.
So it’s not just a figure of speech when we say, “I have such love in my heart”, it’s a literal thing; we do feel love in our heart, in that area of the chest.
It’s important to know that, and it’s important to know that when we’re talking about opening our heart, we’re not talking about open heart surgery, nor are we just making a figure of speech. Without us needing to know what’s actually going on anatomically and physiologically, we’re literally opening the energy heart centre so that it can feel more love. And we need to feel what’s going on in our energy heart.
The degree to which we can feel love in our heart is determined by how open our heart is. Some of us already have a heart which is open, to some more or less degree, some of us have a closed heart. Some are said to have a heart of gold, and the heart chakra literally does glow with a subtle, golden light when it’s open and strong; some of us are said to have a heart of stone, and it has no light in it. If we’re going to feel more love, we have to have an open heart and a strong, warm heart energy.
How open do you feel your heart is? Can you feel your heart react? How readily does your heart melt in response to something that makes you feel love? How readily do you cry in response to something that affects you deeply, whether it makes you feel happy or sad?
However open your heart is, it’s possible for it to open more. The more open it is, the more love you can feel.
So, before we go on to other things, let’s open your heart some more. I’m going to offer you some techniques for opening your heart, starting with opening your heart consciously, in Lecture 4, coming up next.
Lecture 4 : Consciously Opening Your Heart
Consciously opening your heart is something you can do almost all the time. This can rapidly produce results, in the form of you feeling that your heart is opening.
In the introduction to the course I offered you a technique you can use whenever you’re with another person. I hope by now you’ve experienced that it can have an immediate effect in showing you how you can love more. I’d ask you now to be increasingly conscious of how it makes your heart feel. The more you do this the more you will be aware of your heart opening as part of the process of extending your love more.
Other ways of opening your heart are probably best left to your own personal inclinations or preferences.
For example, my preferences include thinking about or engaging with someone who makes me feel very loving. Indulging myself in that feeling of loving enables me to feel my heart opening.
Also there are particular types of music that make me feel very loving. These would normally be pop music, probably ballads, in which it’s either the words or the music or both which have a great effect on me.
I could name many singers and composers who I would sit down to listen to, or have playing in the background. For example, Dionne Warwick, or ‘Warrick’ as we say in England. Dusty Springfield, Neil Diamond, George Michael, Agnetha Faltskog (the blonde lady from Abba), Leona Lewis, Whitney Houston, the Righteous Brothers, lots more singers like that.
Vangelis, as a composer. Mendelssohn, Mozart, Mascagni. Not all of these people’s songs or compositions, just some particular ones and sometimes just part of the song, or part of the instrumental like a particularly beautiful saxophone trill, such has in Vangelis’ love theme for the Blade Runner movie, and in George Michael’s ‘Careless Whisper’ song, and Gary Barlow’s “Million Love Songs”.
Some of the spoken words in the melancholic Blade Runner movie (I love melancholy) have the same effect on me, where the plight of the artificial, human-like Replicants who have only a four year lifespan, moved me so deeply the first time I saw the movie that I carried that beautiful feeling with me for three days afterwards. Some of the script was wonderful, such as when the leader of the replicants, a really brutal guy named Roy Batty, when he was dying, said, “All these moments will be lost, in time, like tears in rain.” To which Harrison Ford the policeman Blade Runner said, “All he’d wanted are the same answers the rest of us want, where do I come from, where am I going, how long have I got?” I go onto YouTube specifically to listen to things like that that make my heart melt, leaving me in a dreamy mood. Or I’ll have it playing in the background whilst I’m doing something else.
I love music in a minor key. Music in a minor key evokes melancholy, longing and sadness. It stirs the love-sick heart, stirs the sorrow, in my case the heart that wants to see more love in the world. Rachmaninov’s Piano Concerto Number 2 in C minor has always been one of my favourites. It has some exquisitely beautiful piano sequences in it.
Being in nature can open my heart. I love looking at wildflowers, which can look so fragile and beautiful and yet so resilient to the weather and the seasons. Cultivated flowers too can be so beautiful. Roses, the combination of their beauty and their fragrance, stir my heart deeply, and make me want to just look at them and enjoy the feelings I get. Even a photograph of a rose Is enough to make me think I can smell the scent of it wafting over me.
I like doing things for people; I always have done. It makes me feel good to do things for people.
Though, a word of caution here, it’s not always the best exercise for opening the heart, as we’re talking about at the moment.
Doing things for other people can have its problems. People can want too much from you, or they may feel obliged to give back in return. The best way I find to give without risking such problems is to give anonymously, for example to a charity that does the kind of work that stirs my heart, such as in the case of a natural disaster where one feels compassion for the victims. Or being considerate to someone, such as giving way to someone in a store, or in traffic. But that’s not to say that giving to people, being helpful to people, isn’t always a good thing to do; I’m simply saying that one needs to consider what one is doing when one gives of oneself to people. It may not open your heart, nor theirs. We’ll be going into this more later in the course.
What sort of things stir your heart? Can you spend more time indulging yourself in such things? There is a worksheet in the Resources section of this lecture where you can write down the things you find stir your heart. You could make a habit of looking at it sometimes during the day, to prompt you to do something to stir your heart; and having a list of things will help you find something you can do there and then.
We may not be able to spend all our time indulging the feelings of our heart, but we could spend quite a lot more time than we do now. It’s so pleasurable that we might want to do it all time, and that should tell us something, maybe that we want our life to be more pleasurable, more heart centered. I suggest that we do it as much as we can and certainly not feel guilty about using our time that way. I reckon it’s probably the best investment of time we can make. And how many of those people we love would object to being the focus of our love a little bit more?
Lecture 5 : Unconsciously Opening Your Heart
What do I mean by saying, “unconsciously opening your heart”? Or I could say “subconsciously”.
You know, or at least you’ve heard, or read, that we have a subconscious part of our mind. Mostly, we have no idea what this part of our mind is, and what goes on there. Wouldn’t we just like to know.
I’d like to suggest that a lot more goes on in our subconscious mind than we realise, and that much more of our life is orchestrated from our subconscious mind than we have any idea of. I’d even go so far as to suggest that the main direction of our lives is determined by ourselves from our subconscious mind.
Without, for the moment, understanding how this part of our mind works, we can use it for some specific purposes such as opening our heart.
I feel fairly safe in saying that your subconscious mind already knows that you want to open your heart more, because you have chosen to do this course, your subconscious mind knows that, and is already helping you to open your heart. Perhaps it even brought you to this course before you were consciously aware of the course. Perhaps you were unconsciously wanting to love more. Or consciously wanting to love more and your subconscious mind directed you to this course, in some way that you thought you did for yourself, such as looking for a course like this online.
You can help your subconscious mind to help you even more by showing your subconscious mind that you are ready and willing to apply yourself to opening your heart. Your subconscious mind will respond by helping you more, in a great variety of ways.
The way in which your subconscious works is according to one of the laws of nature called “the principle of least action” which means that it will choose the simplest, easiest and fastest method available to it. Like water running downhill, It finds the easiest way it can find.
To encourage your subconscious mind to help you I ask you simply to give your subconscious a strong affirmation that you intend to open your heart, and a pledge that you will cooperate with the subconscious mind. This will, in effect, create a contract between your conscious self and your unconscious self that you’ll pay attention to the process through which your heart is opening and you’ll cooperate and collaborate with the doings of your subconscious or unconscious self on your behalf.
For example, you might write, “I intend to open my heart so that I can love more. I ask my subconscious mind to assist me. I pledge to pay attention to any circumstances, events, opportunities, indications, intuitions, and so on, that I become aware of, that my subconscious mind might be orchestrating on my behalf. And I pledge to cooperate and collaborate with such things so that the opening of my heart can be facilitated with the least of effort and maximum of success. I thank my subconscious mind for helping me to open my heart.” You could make it a lot simpler than that, and probably should do. And then you should read it out aloud to your subconscious self at least once a day, in a spirit of respect and gratitude.
You’ll find in the Resources section of this lecture a worksheet that you can download. You can write your affirmations on it. By all means change them if you think you can improve on them. Also write on the worksheet details of any circumstances, events, opportunities, indications, intuitions, and so on, that you think might have been brought to you by your subconscious mind. And write details of what you did to make use of these, and what results came of them. This will reinforce your knowing that your subconscious mind is accessible to you and is ready and willing to help you, and is always extremely effective. It’s very important that we learn to work with the subconscious mind at this stage of the course.
So write out your affirmation and pledge, or use the one I’ve provided in the Resources, and read it out loud to your subconscious mind, as the first of what you should make a daily practice.
Lecture 6 : Expressions Of Unity
I’m making a separate lecture for this because I consider it to be very important. I’ll go into why and how expressions and experiences of unity in love can be hugely effective for you in your day-to-day life later in the course, but for the moment this fits into our exercises for opening the heart.
Some years ago, 20-odd years ago, someone whom I respected a great deal told me that ‘unity’ could be experienced as “seeing yourself in the world, and the whole world in yourself”.
What this meant was that whatever you may see in other people, you can also see within yourself; not necessarily to the same degree, but to some degree, however small, in every single respect you can think of. This would be true no matter how different the other people are from yourself, in terms of culture, race, religion, nationality, gender, behaviour and so on. If you consider this deeply enough, you realise that essentially we are all at least very similar, if not the same, and these similarities are enough to engender a sense of humanity being a single, very large family, a unity, of which we truly are a member, and we are all equal in the most important respects.
Similarly, seeing the whole world in yourself, means looking deeply into yourself and seeing that you, yourself, contain all the attributes and qualities of all people everywhere, again not necessarily in the same degree or combinations of attributes and qualities, but enough to say that we are all essentially, fundamentally, the same. We may not like that idea, but if we consider it deeply enough, we will find that It is true, and it would be good to face up to the fact.
This inherent unity which we share with all other people is something which we can use to open our heart. We can do a very great deal more than that with this unity, as we will see later in the course. When we know that other people are essentially very much the same as ourselves, we have a very strong basis for engendering good relationships with other people, no matter how different they may appear to be on the surface. So often, we use the perceived differences to justify keeping our hearts closed towards other people. When we recognise and acknowledge our essential unity, we know there is no justification for keeping our heart closed.
Open your heart to everyone you meet, regardless. Obviously the other person or people may not do the same. But opening hearts starts here, with us.
Lecture 7 : Evidence Of Your Opening Heart
If you haven’t been aware of your heart being open or opening more, you can take your attention to it and feel what it’s feeling like.
Feelings of love are not concentrated into the heart centre, that’s where most of the sensations may be felt, but they wash over oneself so the whole of your awareness tends to get overwhelmed by such feelings. The degree to which one feels overwhelmed is a pretty good indicator of how open your heart is. If your love makes you cry, then obviously the feeling is affecting your entire nervous system. Which explains why love can also be a powerful healing energy for you; more on that later.
For our purposes here, it would be good for you to develop a keen appreciation of how much your heart reacts to the sensations of love in all their manifestations, pleasant or otherwise – by which I also mean sadness, grief and so on.
Usually there will be a sensation of softness, quietness, peacefulness, even blissfulness, feelings which can feel very pleasant even though they may have the overtones of sadness, etc. One may feel like crying, and crying of course can be an expression of joy as much as it can be of sadness. Even depression can be a really pleasant feeling and make one indulge in the feeling of it.
We’re all probably familiar with the whole array of feelings associated with love. What we are looking for here is a more responsive heart, one which expresses love more freely, one which we know is expressing love more freely. We will know that we are expressing love more freely when we are feeling the sensations of love in our heart more readily, more acutely, more overwhelmingly.
The heart doesn’t only feel love in what we think of as the positive, uplifting qualities of love, such as togetherness, acceptance, generosity, joy, forgiveness, caring. It can also feel what we can think, perhaps wrongly, as more negative qualities of love such as sadness, grief, compassion, sympathy, empathy, loneliness, regret, melancholy and such things like that. Gosh, there seem to be a lot of those, don’t there. But it’s important to be able to feel such feelings appropriately, so that one can respond to them appropriately.
The heart doesn’t feel such emotions as anger, fear, hate, frustration, anxiety and suchlike. These and various other emotions are felt in other energy centres, up and down the body.
Incidentally, and a word of warning here, you may find that as your heart opens you become more aware feelings of anger and fear and frustration etc. You are becoming more aware of all of your feelings. However, this is a good thing, and you’ll find these more negative feelings will gradually dissipate as you love more.
The main thing here is to recognise what’s going on in your heart. What is causing things to go on in your heart is not the point here. The point is to cultivate your heart so that it can express love more freely.
In the Resources section of this lecture there’s a worksheet which will enable you to keep a record of how much more freely you feel you are expressing love as time goes on.
Lecture 8: Opening Your Heart – Conclusion (Meditation)
Your mind speaks to you in thoughts, but your heart speaks to you in feelings.
Your heart would never deceive you, though your mind may not understand its love.
Your mind may think you love, but your heart knows you love.
To know what your heart knows, you must feel what your heart feels
And to feel what your heart feels, your heart must be open.
So open your heart.
For your heart to radiate the love it feels, it needs to be warm.
To be warm, your heart needs to feel its love like your skin feels the warmth of the midday sun.
And as the sun indeed is life itself, love indeed is life itself.
So open your heart to the warmth of life’s love.
And like the sun, your heart is golden; the goodness of your heart is golden like the sun.
So open your heart to your inner sun as you would open a window in your home to sun in the sky, and let the golden light of your heart’s inner sun shine through you.
Open your heart.
You need an open heart if you’re going to feel the loving connection between yourself and other people, to feel the compassion, concern, consideration and care, and other aspects of love that your mind tells you you might be feeling, or ought to be feeling; you need an open heart which reacts in a feeling way to such impulses to love; an open heart.
You also need to have a warm heart if you’re going to make use of that love, give it to others in some way, and radiate it in a way that others can feel; and you need a heart of gold if you’re going to give your love from the utmost goodness of your heart.
In this section we’ve looked at techniques you can use to open your heart, and these will also start to warm your heart, and give you some reasons why you might think about what opportunities there could be, that you might not have thought about before, to engage yourself with others in loving ways.
In using these techniques you might also have found yourself becoming less judgmental towards other people, people you may never have thought about engaging with meaningfully before; seeing them as essentially the same as yourself, and now you’re more able to connect with them in loving ways.
Given these techniques, our ability to connect with others in loving ways becomes more a matter of our desire to do so; and the warmer our heart feels towards others, the more easily we’ll connect with them.
So, if you desire to do so, I recommend that you use these techniques all the time when you’re connecting with people; and use the worksheets I’ve provided for you to keep notes of your experiences, for your own interest, to evaluate your progress and to reinforce your practices.
Section 3 : Understandings and Experiences of Love
Lecture 9 : Section Introduction
Hello and welcome back.
How could we ever do enough loving?
In this section, in this part of the process, I’m going to talk about the importance we give to love, and query why we don’t spend more time loving, and what we might do about that. And isn’t it natural for us to want to love, all the time?
That will set the scene for me to go on, in the section after this one, to describe how love is actually a lot more than we already think it is, and far more powerful than we think it is; and a lot more besides, which will set the scene for a new round of practical exercises; after all, this is intended to be a practical course giving you the ways and means to love more; it’s not just a theoretical course; but there are things you need to know to widen and deepen your appreciation of love.
Again, one step at a time, let’s look first at why we think love is so important, and whether we’re doing enough of it. Enough of it? How could we ever do enough loving?
I’ll start by explaining what my understanding is of what love is and how deep ‘love’ really goes. I’ll explain my understanding of why we don’t already love as deeply as we could. And then I’m going to make a case for saying that we really do want to love more deeply.
The whole basis for my course is my understanding that love is a lot more than most of us think it is – and is a lot more powerful than we think it is – and that if we access and express more of the love that’s naturally here inside us, we can transform our own lives for the better and transform the world around us at the same time.
This course is also based firmly on my understanding that we ourselves are a lot more, a very great deal more, than we normally think we are and this is true of all of us, and probably always will be; this course will help you to access a lot more of who you really are.
I’m going to introduce some ideas that you’ll already be familiar with but which you may have some doubts or confusion about, and need more knowledge about. I’m going to help you resolve those doubts or confusion and provide that more knowledge. As I go along I’ll give you references to other sources and resources of this knowledge and descriptions of my own experiences to back up what I’m saying.
Most of the course will provide you with practical understanding; that is, I’ll explain ways in which you can apply your new understanding into your everyday life. In that way you’ll be able to access love much more deeply than before, and you actually will love more in your life and experience for yourself the many more good things that’ll happen when you’re loving more.
As well as the practical applications of love I’ll be going into more of the dimensions of love, and also discussing some of the areas of our lives in which more love is sorely needed; but most of the course will ask you to apply love in practical ways so you can experience the benefits that I am asking you to expect as you love more.
I could say that I’ve been working on this course for most of my life, because I recognised at the age of 12, back in 1957, that people don’t love each other enough, and I resolved at that time to spend the rest of my life “sorting that out”. Quite an ambition for a 12 -year-old! As you see me now I’m 70 years old so you can see it is taking me all of my life “to sort this out”. And what this means is, given so many years of being conscious of this mission of mine, I’ve been able to accumulate the knowledge and experience to enable me to do this effectively and authentically. And of course I now have the use of technology that enables me to broadcast this course worldwide, which is great!
During the course I’ll explain more about what I’ve been doing in my life and where I am and what I’m doing today.
When you’re ready let’s go on to the next lecture.
Lecture 10 : The Importance Of Love
Welcome back. I’d like to explain my understandings and experiences of love; understandings which I’ve gathered over many years, and experiences I’ve had in relation to those understandings.
Many of my understandings will be familiar enough to you but also controversial for many people. I don’t want to go too deeply into theory at this stage, because we might start getting bogged down. I’m adding resources to this lecture to give you the opportunity to explore certain areas of the understandings of love but I would ask you to go through the course completely before you return to this lecture to explore these various resources more deeply. After all, this is not purely a theoretical course; it’s essentially a practical course and I would ask you to go through the course and apply the practical things that I’m suggesting so that you can have some direct experience before you return to consider the theory in some depth.
I’ll be discussing things mostly in non-scientific and non-religious terms but, I will offer resources in scientific and religious terms. Personally I don’t practice any particular religion, because long ago I had cause for misgivings about the effectiveness of the church I was brought up in and I haven’t had reason to think otherwise since – though I have had reason to think that the church holds some essential truths. I study the teachings of Jesus, which I hold great store by, but outside of mainstream Christian Church teachings in this country, Great Britain. I’m definitely not evangelising for any particular religion, nor am I going to compare different religions’ teachings about love.
It seems to me that most of the main religions could be described as religions of love, and in some cases it’s that love, in one form or another, which is considered to be the source, course and goal of the perfect life. Inevitably I will make some mention of religious teachings on love, because many people are familiar with such teachings. And we can consider whether we are properly understanding, practising and experiencing what we are having preached to us.
So, at this stage, not talking scientifically or religiously, I would like to offer you some thoughts , not necessarily my own original thoughts, though the wording might be mine, which will set the stage for what will follow in the course.
Love is a law of nature. Love is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. Love is an essential part of the creation. Love can be universal, infinite and unconditional. Love is what makes the world go round. Love is the answer. Love changes everything. What the world needs now is love, sweet love, it’s the only thing that there’s just too little of. Love has creative organising power. Love is a fundamental part of our own deepest nature. Every one of us has access to, and can experience, the full extent and depth of the love which is naturally within us, we need only to understand that it’s there, where to look for it and how to express and experience it.
Love is expressed and experienced mainly through the heart. The extent to which our heart is open will determine how much love we express and experience. Everything and everyone can express and experience love. It’s inevitable that expressing and experiencing love more deeply will involve loving everyone and everything. That deeper and deepest love is inclusive. It cannot be directed towards just one person or one thing alone, although of course one may choose to direct it towards one person or thing to a greater degree than towards others, for reasons of one’s own. And it may be in that way, in one’s particular circumstances, that one would experience love in the most intense way.
First of all, though, let’s look at why we don’t love more, in the next lecture.
Lecture 11 : Why We Don’t Love More
Welcome back. The purpose of this lecture is to consider what’s perhaps a surprising question: “why don’t we love more?”
It seems to me that in the English-speaking world and most of the so-called developed world there are clear reasons why we don’t love more, reasons that we perhaps have lost sight of because we believe that our current way of life is the right way for an intelligent and well adjusted society or civilisation to behave.
In fact since the beginning of the Industrial Revolution in the 18th century, we have not been educated to love. We have been educated at school to be productive in the workplace. That has been the priority of school education. Love has never been considered to be a pre-requisite for efficient work, though personally I would say that love very definitely has a place in the workplace when one is working as part of a group; more on that later.
In a rather similar way, religions, which one might have expected to teach the value of love, have never taught us how to love each other, and life, more deeply; rather to love or worship someone or something which is remote from our immediate reach, which is a rather different thing. Whilst it’s true that one sees many good, loving works being done by church members in their communities, encouraged to do so by the church, the evidence, when one looks at the world at large, suggests that the religions have not taught their followers how to access and express the deepest love which the teachings that have been handed down to them suggest is vital.
Also, over the last century, since we’ve had movie pictures, television and another media, love has been used as a vehicle for corporations to make profit, especially through romantic story-telling, now becoming ever more sexualised, in various shades and hues. Consequently, most of today’s generations associate love mostly with romance and sex. Whilst we might reasonably desire love through romance and sex, we obviously can’t enjoy it with more than one person, or a very few people, at a time. Those people with whom we do not desire to have romance and sex don’t readily become the objects of our love. And such romantic love is easily confused with lust, sexual desire, need for company, perhaps partnership, and is not necessarily given through the heart, but through our instinctive, biologically-induced imperatives to reproduce, which are often way beyond our control and demand to be satisfied – through what we call “making love”.
Equally, through our preoccupation with success at work, status-seeking, self-fulfilment and material consumption, and taking into account the influences of the media, we have become habituated to a very shallow existence, one in which our sense of ourselves has become distorted, usually in the form of a corrupted ego. Most of us now tend to identify ourselves more through our ego than through our deeper, real, naturally-loving selves; more on that later.
These things combined mean that most of us have an extremely limited idea of what love can mean in our lives, what true love is, how to access and express it, and what our potentials through love can really be.
In the following sections and lectures we will see how this can be remedied.
Lecture 12 : It’s Natural To Love
Welcome back. I’d just like to establish with you what we all know is true for all of us, that it’s completely natural to love. We love to love. If there’s one thing we all seem to want, it’s love. That includes wanting to be loved but that we ourselves want to love. We love to love. We love our cars; we love our pets; we love our best friend; we love our family. We love our job. We love going to the movies. We love going on holiday. We love to dance. We love going shopping; we love going to the football; we love being out in nature; we love a cold winter’s day.
Okay, a lot of that isn’t what we would call true love. But it does indicate that we love to love. We love the feeling of loving. It’s one of our favourite feelings. It might even be our most favourite feeling.
So this suggests that loving is very deeply part of our nature. If we could spend our lives in a state of loving would we complain about it? Probably not.
If we would like to be permanently in a state of loving why do we not love all the time? Is this because we’re too busy to love, or we don’t have anyone or anything to love. Is it that we find it difficult to find a suitable person or thing to love, and so we fill our lives with substitutes which give us some of the feeling of loving?
Is our heart not open enough for us to feel the feeling of loving all the time? Do we find it hard to find an object for our love, an object lovable enough to stir our heart?
Since we’ve established that it’s natural for us to feel love and we do desire to feel love perhaps there is a way we could learn to love more.
I think there is and that’s why I’ve made this course.
Lecture 13 : How Love Makes Good Things Happen
Love is a creative, motivating force in human nature, in the sense of bringing together the lover and the thing that is loved, whether that be a person or a thing, or an activity of some sort.
Not only that, but love also has the power to hold people together, and in balance; and it has the power to let go when the time comes, if it ever does. There’s really no other force in the universe that has the power to do all these things.
So when we’re loving, we’re dealing with something that has the power to make very good things happen; and the more capably we handle this power, the more effective it will be for us.
What I mean, when I say, “the more capably we handle this power”, is that there’s a way we can handle the power of love better, or more so, than we usually do.
To do that, we’re going to have to dig deeply into love and life itself for a greater understanding of love, and look at some examples of the power of love to make some really extraordinary things happen.
We’ll do that over the next two sections of the course.
Lecture 14 : Section Conclusion
In this section we’ve begun to look at what is love is really all about, to set you on the path to learning how to love in a way you may never have loved before. We’ve begun to look at some of the theory of love but I have emphasised that this is really a practical course. The theory is merely the context in which we’re working to learn to love more.
We’ve looked at what we consider to be the importance of love, and the value we place on it.
We looked at some of the reasons why we don’t always love as much as we would like to, reasons which include a lack of education and support from our industry-focused society and from our religions to encourage us to love more , even though in every area of our lives there’ s clearly a place for more love.
We established for our own satisfaction that it’s completely natural for us to want to love all the time.
And finally, we began to understand that love is a very great power that we need to know how to use for the benefit of ourselves and others.
So now we have a basis on which we can feel motivated to devote some time to learn to love more. Are you loving this?
Section 4 : What Is Love?
Lecture 15 : Section Introduction
In this section we’re going to look at definitions of love, and get a better idea of what love is.
“My love is like a red, red rose, that’s newly sprung in June”, as the Scots poet Robert Burns sang, sometime around 1794, and the U.K.’s Prince Charles is fond of reciting today; but this isn’t quite going to cut it for our purposes here, though we might like love always to be romantic like that.
Let’s look at some dictionary definitions, and then put a few of these definitions under a closer look, and see if we can’t develop a clearer understanding and feeling for what we’re talking about when we say “I’m learning to love more”.
Lecture 16 : Definitions Of Love
Google defines ‘love’, as a noun, as “a strong feeling of affection”, as in fondness, tenderness, warmth, intimacy, attachment, endearment, devotion, adoration, idolisation, worship, passion, desire, lust, yearning, infatuation, adulation.
It also defines ‘love’, as a noun, as “a great interest and pleasure in something”, as in “his love for football”, a liking, a weakness, partiality, leaning, proclivity, inclination, disposition.
And then ‘love’ as a verb, “to feel deep affection or sexual love for someone”, as in being in love with, being infatuated with, being besotted with, being passionate about.
A dictionary, The Urban Dictionary, describes “Love” as nature’s way of tricking people into reproducing, which is probably true but I think that must be a joke.
However, it goes on to say that love is, “The most spectacular, indescribable, deep euphoric feeling for someone. Love is an incredibly powerful word, when you’re in love, you always want to be together, and when you’re not, you’re thinking about being together because you need that person and without them your life is incomplete.
“This love is unconditional affection with no limits or conditions: completely loving someone. It’s when you trust the other with your life and when you would do anything for each other. When you love someone you want nothing more than for them to be truly happy no matter what it takes because that’s how much you care about them and because their needs come before your own. You hide nothing of yourself and can tell the other anything because you know they accept you just the way you are and vice versa.”
Okay, that kind of love, wonderful though it is, and I could encourage you in that, is only being experienced in the one-to-one relationship between two people. I want to extend this beyond the one-to-one relationship, because I’m asking you to learn to love more, not just in the sense of the depth of your love for one person, but your love’s length and breadth, height and depth too, that is, how you can deeply love everyone and everything, and the whole world even.
So let’s look at some quotations from people who we might describe as masters, both male and female.
The Greek philosopher Sophocles said “One word frees us from all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.”
Actually the WikiHow website at www.wikihow.com/Define-Love says that the Greeks broke “Love” down into four categories; one is unconditional love, as in “God loves us with all our faults.”; another is our likings or needs and desires, as in “I love going for a walk”; another is family love, and the nonsexual love between close friends, as in a very deep feeling of attachment, often with physical contact such as hugs and kisses; actually, hugging and kissing was said in a study published in the Journal of Social Psychological and Personality Science in 2012 to be the top reason for nearly half of all men and women in a representative sample of 274 married couples saying they were still “very intensely in love” with their partner even after 10 years of marriage; and the fourth of the Greeks’ definitions is the sexual love, or eroticism. Somehow, making love for reproduction doesn’t seem to figure in the Greeks’ reckonings.
Psychologists, apparently, break love down into three components; one is physical desire, one is emotional closeness, connectedness and warmth of friendship; the third is commitment, as in, “is this couple willing to work things out?”
The English poet Elizabeth Barrett Browning, in the 19th century wrote a poem, “How do I love thee?”: “How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. I love thee to the depth and breadth and height my soul can reach…….., when feeling out of sight.”
I like that one. I’ll come back to that one later.
But Shakespeare warns that “Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds”; so if you fall out of love for some reason, it wasn’t really love in the first place.
Okay. I think we might get the feeling that those definitions are talking mostly about romantic love. Some of them suggested more than that, such as Google, with ‘worship’, perhaps of God, and love of family and friends.
I’m looking for two things: how our love, not just the love of God, can be universal, infinite and unconditional, and how we can experience love as a powerful law of nature in our own hands which can make very good things happen, not just in your own life, in your own relationships, whether family, friends, work colleagues, strangers in the street, but also in the wider world.
As Mahatma Gandhi said, “There is force in the universe, which, if we permit it, will flow through us and produce miraculous results.”
I believe he meant that force to be love. And in this course we’ll be looking at where it is, how to access it, and how it may produce miraculous results.
But first of all, in the next lecture(s) I want to continue looking at definitions of love, by looking at descriptions of the qualities, or attributes, or aspects of love through which we express and experience love in our everyday life.
Lecture 17 : Aspects of Love Pt 1
Most usually, we find ourselves expressing love in a variety of ways that we might not immediately think of as expressions of love. But they are. As Elizabeth Barrett Browning wrote, “Let me count the ways.”
Here are about 40 ways; I’m sure you could think of more, and I’ve added a Worksheet to the resources section of this lecture so that you can add some more when you think of them, or more definitions of the ones I’m describing now:
Appreciation is when you genuinely, sincerely see the virtue in someone or something. There is a glowing quality about appreciation which comes from the heart, and also from the mind because you’ve thought about what it is you’re appreciating; but in the glow from the heart is the glow of love.
Compassion is the feeling you get when your heart goes out to someone in their particular circumstances. Someone whom you feel you would love to help evokes the feeling of compassion. You may feel moved to do something about it, for instance, to donate to the relief of victims of a natural disaster. Sometimes you can’t do as much as you would like to do, and you are left with your heart extended towards the other person or people. Compassion (literally: with passion) is love which connects you to another but which remains unfulfilled until that time when fulfilment is there.
Gratitude is the sense of thankfulness and joy that comes from receiving, whether you are actually receiving from someone or you are joyful that you are able to give. Gratitude is heartfelt love that has no bounds and is unconditional once the reason for gratitude is recognised. One may feel grateful to be alive, for no reason other than one recognises that one is alive; or because it’s a beautiful day; or because one has survived an accident or disaster or threatening situation. Whichever is the case, one draws upon that aspect of love which is gratitude, thankfulness without measure, unconditionally.
If you forgive someone who hurt you, it’s an act of love towards them, whether they know you’re forgiving them or not. They may not acknowledge that they hurt you; the point is, you need to relieve yourself of that hurt. So forgiving someone is an act of love towards yourself also.
If you forgive yourself for hurting someone, it’s an act of love towards yourself, acknowledging your guilt, learning your lesson and relieving yourself of the debilitating guilt which serves no-one’s good purpose.
In both cases, your forgiveness and forgetfulness is an act of love.
Kindness is one of the active forms of love; to be a kind person, or kindliness, implies that an action will be taken, or has the potential to be taken, which is beneficial to, considerate of, supportive of, another person. Kindness, or kindliness, suggests that a person holds it in their heart always to be kind. It is an aspect of love which is cultivated over time and has a quality of permanence and unconditionality, ever ready to be offered to someone in need.
Nurturing and care are aspects of love which are given to support a process, most usually of growth or sustenance, whether it be for a person, a child for example in its growing up, or someone who is vulnerable in some way; or it may be for a community or other kind of group; or even a project of some sort which is being developed. In every case a quality of support is being given which draws deeply on the carer’s heartfelt love, beyond a merely practical schedule of actions calculated to be of appropriate support.
The sense of togetherness or belonging comes from the sense of being part of something, a family, a community, a workforce, a faith, a nationality, a race of people, etc., and if that sense of togetherness is strong, and is valued, it is felt as an aspect of love. We tend to want this sense of togetherness, we may long for it if it is absent. We like to feel that our togetherness is strong, the stronger the better. We like to feel that our sense of togetherness is love. We might wish to love the whole world if we could get over the barriers we erect to keep us separated.
Empathy is the sense that we have become, or could become, at one with another, sufficiently to experience the other’s life as they do. This requires a willingness to enter into the other’s heart and mind; it requires the ability to put aside one’s own experiences and to surrender oneself to the experiences of the other. Empathy is a gift of love, laying down one’s own experiences for another’s; being willing to enter into the other’s experiences to an extremely high degree; and being able and willing to offer the other appropriate validation and support.
To give in charity, whether one gives in service or in kind, is to give from the heart in an act of love. When one gives in charity, one doesn’t seek anything in return, not even the satisfaction of giving; otherwise one is merely trading. Charity is the heart being extended to another in their time of need. Love seeks always to give of itself; charity is its way.
Beauty is the highest experience of love in the outer world. Beauty is experienced as a reflection of the highest conception of love made manifest in the outer world. This does not need to be a physical object; beauty can be experienced within a process of some sort, for example in the quality of relationships between people or animals etc. Beauty can be enduring or ephemeral; in the case of people there may be outer beauty or inner beauty; the beauty is exclusively the experience of the beholder, as a reflection of the beauty intrinsic within the love which we are.
Trust is the surrendering of oneself to a person or process, physical or spiritual. Trust is the confidence that all will be well. Trust may be based upon an intellectual analysis of a person or process, but the giving of trust is heart-based. One feels that one can trust; in the final analysis one’s heart tells one that trust is appropriate; the heart’s doors innocently open and trust is given. Trust is given as an expression of love for the other.
Lecture 18: Aspects Of Love Pt 2
Giving freely of oneself is an act of love. To reveal oneself totally to another is the highest expression of giving of oneself unconditionally. To be honest and open and share with another or with others, is to surrender oneself to another; one may hope that this will be respected appropriately by the other, but any doubts that one may have about the appropriateness of sharing so honestly is a reflection of how profound a gift of love your honesty, openness, sharing or vulnerability is.
To be gentle, to be courteous and respectful is to display the finer qualities of love; one expects and assumes that it is always appropriate to display the finer qualities of love; we adopt these qualities in any of our relationships in which we seek to engender a mutually agreeable balance, whatever the circumstances may be. Gentleness is an unmistakeable indication that we are considerate of the other, and an open door to mutual gentility.
Happiness is a sure sign that love is being fulfilled. Happiness is felt in the heart when sufficient fulfilment of love’s desire is experienced that the doors to the heart can open and reveal the warmth of your love. Happiness is that aspect of love that confirms that love is experiencing itself, whether for some particular reason or for none at all other than being able to express itself unconditionally.
Life is abundant and gives itself through love. Love is that aspect of life that expresses the fullness of life in all its aspects. The infinite beneficence of life is showered upon the earth through love, fulfilled within itself and fulfilled within its giving. We too are the givers of grace, beneficence and abundance through the generosity of our love. We too are the givers of grace when we express the universal, infinite and unconditional love that we are.
The love within us is the giver of freedom for ourselves and for others. The love within us gives us self-sufficiency in our ability to live a life of fulfilment without needing to control others. The love within us therefore frees everyone else of our needs, and therefore we seek not to control them in any way. We are not dependent upon others; we are inter-dependent with others only to the extent that we interact with them in the process of mutually collaborative living, within which all are free as a realisation of our love for one another.
Love is the essence of humility and humbleness; love does not need to puff itself up with pride; it knows itself to be the greatest power imaginable; its natural state within you is therefore the state of humility and humbleness, a power whose potential is present though inactive, as the archer holds the potential of his bow drawn back, inactive though powerful, before releasing the arrow.
Love has the power to orchestrate the whole of life. Love is creative and is the motive power of the whole of life just as it is in your life. Love is the most powerful force in the universe and the most powerful organising force at your disposal in your own life. Love will guide you aright when all else fails you. It is, literally, all you need.
Lecture 19 : Section Conclusion
In this section we’ve looked at some definitions and descriptions of love in such a way that we’re seeing that love is more than just relationships between two people, or family and friends; those aspects of love which I read descriptions of – actually I wrote those descriptions myself – showed that love appears in many different guises in our everyday lives, especially in our interactions with all sorts of people.
Mahatma Gandhi talked about a force which is capable of producing miraculous results, and I believe he was talking about love, or something, such as the creative force, which could also be thought of as love; he’s also quoted as saying, “Love is the strongest force the world possesses…” and he said, “The force of love is the same as the force of the soul or the truth…” and, “Love is the subtlest force in the universe.” So, I reckon I’m on the right track in using Mahatma Gandhi to back me up here in describing love as something much greater than we usually give it credit for.
And as we count the ways of love and learn about the length and breadth and height and depth of love we’ll see how we can love more, and make some very good use of love, to make some very good things happen.
Part of the value of going through this process step-by-step is that we develop an understanding of love that we can make sense of, and get our thoughts straight and perhaps be able to describe it to other people in ways that previously we haven’t had a clear enough understanding about it to do. Until now, it may have just been an intuition or a feeling that love is good, and is worth having, whether we’re giving it or receiving it. Now, it will become more than just intuition or feeling, it will be something we can understand and appreciate well enough to use more effectively, to very good purpose.
To be honest with you, I’m benefiting from this course, the same as you are; putting my thoughts and knowledge and experiences together into a single, coherent picture, is helping me know more clearly, intellectually, what love is all about so I can teach about it. I’m expecting to get a lot of benefit from making this course; I’m sure that will help me to focus and mobilise my love in a much more powerful and effective way than I’ve done before.
It was an Indian Yogi by the name of Bhajan who said, “If you want to learn something, read about it. If you want to understand something, write about it. If you want to master something, teach it.” And I’m hoping I’ll be able to get you to do all of those things, same as me.
So, like you hopefully are at this point in the course, I’m looking forward to going on to the next section that I scripted a few weeks ago, to see what more can be said about love that will motivate us to love more and become masters of it. Let’s go on.
Section 5 : The source and course of love
Lecture 20 : Section Introduction
This is a crucial section of the course, where we go to the heart of what I want to teach, which is that you have a far greater love inside you than you’re realising, or actualising; and the same still applies to me, but as I’m saying, it’s a process, and that involves realising and actualising progressively more as we go on.
If you’re going to access, and make use of, that greater love you have inside you, it’s crucial that you have an intellectual appreciation of how you can do that. So I want to discuss five things with you in this section:
The first is: it would help us to understand the full potential of love if we had a better idea of where love is in the universe, and in ourselves; is it a physical thing, an energy, a tendency, a law of nature, what? Where do we look for proper answers to that, whether they’re religions or the sciences or classical literature some other, less authoritarian source?
The second thing is, who are we, in relation to the whole of life? Obviously we’re part of life because we’re alive; and what are the implications of that? Is there some purpose in that? Or is life just meaningless and we can make up our lives as we go along, any way we want to? Does it really matter?
Thirdly, if it’s the case, as many wise teachers have said, that love is the most powerful force in the universe, do we need to ask how we can access it, how can we use it, if it’s so powerful could it be used to right the wrongs in the world? Make love, not war? Could we use it to create a Golden Age for the Earth and the whole of nature, including ourselves?
Fourth, if the present state of the world is anything to go by, which presumably it is, at this present time humanity is probably realising and actualising only a tiny fraction of love’s potential; though perhaps it’s not surprising that we’ve been missing out on something when there are so few people teaching us effectively how and why we can be more loving.
And the fifth thing is, we could be making some very good things happen if we could realise more of that potential of love; we could, at last, be the answer to the song from the 1960s: “What the world needs now, is love, sweet love, it’s the only thing that there’s just too little of.”
So let’s make a start to address these things by taking a dip into the depths of ourselves and look at where we might find the love we have within.
Lecture 21: Universal, Infinite And Unconditional Love
We need to start looking at the whole of life and locating love, and locating ourselves in relation to that love.
We, ourselves, are part of life; obviously we are because we’re alive, and so in some way we’re directly connected to the whole of life, including the love in life.
Where do we find ourselves in life, how are we related to it, and where do we find the kind of love that we feel within ourselves, also existing in the whole of life?
There are people who say that love is the greatest force in the universe. They say that love comes from the very source of life. Can we understand that, other than by simply accepting what we’re told in religious, or spiritual terms? How can we understand it in scientific terms?
And if we can understand that love comes from the very source of life, at which point do we ourselves connect with that love?
Let’s first of all look at the idea that love comes from the source of life and the whole of life is therefore somehow imbued with love through and through. What can we see that suggests to us that the very nature of life is love? Or, if love’s not the only nature of life, that love is the most dominant nature, the most powerful nature of life?
If love comes from the source of life, how do we see it expressed in the physical universe? What would we look for, that we might describe as expressions of love?
What can we say is a fair definition of love? As the great scientist Albert Einstein said, “How are you ever going to explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love?” We’re not concerned with first love here, but we could also ask how can you explain love in such scientific terms?
Let’s look at some of the expressions which we ourselves sometimes use when we’re describing love experiences:
I am magnetically attracted to (that person) (there’s the principle of magnetism)
It felt like there was an electrical charge between us (the principle of electricity)
We gravitated towards each other across the room (gravity)
My love for (that person) is infinite (infinity)
I care about (that person) so much I would die for them (unconditionality)
We give our children all our love to help them to grow (creativity, catalyst, nurturing)
This love gives me a stability in my life, and a purpose for living (stability, purpose)
We got married because we wanted children. We felt marriage was important to give the children a meaningful, solid, stable framework for their lives (support, stability)
I wanted children in order to continue the thread of the family lineage (creativity, process, evolution)
Our family holds together through thick and thin (unity, strength, stability)
Can you see in all these expressions principles which appear to apply throughout the universe?
The universe, in its nature, is full of electricity, magnetism and gravity. It is continuously creating, evolving and changing; it is nurturing, sustaining, maintaining and allowing things eventually to die, and be recycled. These three things together – creating, maintaining and destroying – are clearly the basis of life as an intelligent, evolving, purposeful process.
This process of creation could easily be seen as being directed by a loving hand, heart and mind, though I’m not trying to convince you that the universe is the work of God, nor an impersonal force. I am merely suggesting that the principles underlying the process of creation are similar, very similar, to what we would describe as love, and that which holds the whole process together is what we could describe as love. And this is not to say that that universal kind of love has a heartfelt quality to it. It may have no quality to it; it may be simply a force, an energy, a law of nature; but it serves to direct the process of creation, to uphold it, nurture it, support it and hold it all together in one cohesive whole; very much like we, in our human condition, would expect love to do.
On the other hand we may indeed have a loving God above us, in the way some religions teach. Indeed one might imagine that what Christians call the Holy Trinity was founded in love, and is held together by love – God the Father, the masculine principle, God the Mother/Holy Spirit, the feminine principle, or the masculine and feminine principles as a unity, and their Only Begotten Son/Daughter, the Christ as their sole outward expression. Surely love’s in there somewhere? And surely we must be related to that?
One of the resources attached to this lecture is a link to a website called The Revelatorium, at www.revelatorium.com written in the form of a book with chapters, by people who understand the principles of what is called sacred geometry, that is, the mathematical principles on which the universe was created. The website makes for very heavy reading but it’s fascinating and very illuminating in the respect that the universe is shown to be imbued through and through with love. I’m very familiar with that website because I did proof-reading for it for a few years while it was in the making.
One of the things it says is “Love is the one force which is universally the same for all life regardless of frequency and involvement. Love is the single most powerful vibration in all of creation.” By that reckoning we should be feeling some of that love for ourselves.
I can assure you on the basis of my own experience that this is possible, without the use of mushrooms or other mind-altering substances or self-induced, so-called “peak” experiences. One can feel totally blissed-out with love, feeling self-sufficient in love and loving everyone and everything, without having any particular object of love in mind. Whether I can get you to experience that depends on how deeply you’re prepared to engage yourself in this course and beyond it. At least let me give you an intellectual appreciation of the possibility.
If we believe that there must be some purpose behind the creation of the universe (otherwise the whole of life would be meaningless), we can infer, and that book goes into detail over it, that the universe was created by someone or something in order to extend its existence into a new state of being. To judge from what we now know of the universe, it’s possible for us to say that there was an inconceivably immense intelligence behind the intention to give birth to the universe; though I know not everyone’s going to agree with that.
There is undeniable orderliness in the physical universe even though there also appears to be chaos and destruction. But when we think of the process of re-decorating a room in our house, we see that chaos is part of the creative process; and that destruction is needed for recycling, whilst the wonderful, finished result doesn’t appear until all the chaos and all the destruction is done; and then we’re on to another project.
Nature, as we can see it, has inconceivable intelligence. The deeper into nature our technology allows us to see, the more incredible we see the intelligence within it to be, far, far beyond what mankind can envisage being able to create, except perhaps for little bits at a time.
We might also say that the love behind the creation of the physical universe is unconditional, in the sense that the physical creation is apparently left to evolve as it will, having been given a very good start in life, and plenty of energy to see it through. It would be worth giving some more thought to that.
So can we establish that love is part of life, from its source to every part of the physical universe, which includes ourselves. And we can say, without far too much of a stretch, that love is universal, infinite and unconditional?
Also can we say that we ourselves, as part of the physical universe, are directly connected to that universal, infinite and unconditional love. We need to find out how to access it. And, together with some people I’m going to quote from, I can show you how to do that.
I know it’s pretty big thing to ask you to accept such a profound concept of that universal, infinite and unconditional love, and I need to ask you to stay with me on this. Believe me, I’ve been there, done that and got the T-shirt. It has taken me decades to gain the knowledge and experience to discuss these things authentically. I can offer you plenty of resources to enable you to delve deeply into this knowledge and gain these experiences for yourself. However I believe I can offer you shortcuts to what I believe you really need to know. You won’t have to spend the years I’ve spent in gaining this knowledge and experience. You just need to see this course through.
Let’s go on now and look at how you can connect yourself to the whole of life.
Lecture 22: Who Are You, Really? Part 1
Welcome back. Who are you? Who are you, really?
I’m not asking, “what is your name?” I’m not asking whether you’re a father or a mother, son or daughter, I’m not asking you to identify yourself by your career, for example, whether you’re an accountant, a gardener, builder or hairdresser, school teacher, nurse, I don’t want to know whether you’re a man or a woman, what your faith is, what race you’re from, what your sexuality is, I don’t want any of the usual labels we give ourselves.
What are you beyond all of those labels? You might say, “I am a human being”; well, your body is of the human kind, the human physical template. But what are you within that body? Who is it that says “I am”?
When you have the thought in your mind, “I am”, you might use your brain, your nervous system and your vocal mechanisms to say “I am”. But where is your mind?
And what is behind your mind? Is the real you to be found in your mind or somewhere behind or beyond your mind?
Neurosurgeons and other scientists have been very slow to study consciousness. They’re discovering that consciousness is very difficult to locate, though they are seeing that consciousness activates parts of the brain, the nervous system and the body.
I’ve added some scientific articles about this to the Resources section of this lecture, but I suggest that you leave them until later. What they show is that mainstream science has not yet connected the physical world with consciousness; they have not yet proven the existence of a soul; they have not identified love as a law of nature; certainly, they are going deeper and deeper into the nature of things, and are making some serious efforts to understand what people describe as the spiritual dimension of life.
There are, however, some scientists outside the academic mainstream, who’ve gone all the way and now fully understand what consciousness is, where it’s located, and how it works. I’ve added some links to articles and papers about this in the Resources section; but I suggest you leave those until later.
In the meantime, and without any scientific verification of this, let’s see what we ourselves can understand about who we really are.
What is this consciousness of ours, that is aware that “I am”?
Is this the part of our self which is called spiritual?
Can we see anything in life which suggests there is a spiritual part of life?
If we were to look at a schematic showing the hierarchical nature of physics, or indeed of mathematics, philosophy or even computer science, we would see a common structure, at the base of which there appears to be a non-physical structure we might call spiritual. It appears that this is where the laws of nature, the intelligence of nature and the energy of life have their source.
To explain briefly, at the top of the hierarchy there is the outward expression, for example in physics we see the physical object, like a piece of wood, for example, looking solid. I’m showing this on a chart in the Resources section of this lecture.
As we proceed down the hierarchy the solid, physical expression becomes more subtle, and we begin to see the intelligence and the energy within the increasingly less seemingly solid object.
At the foot of the hierarchy we find the most subtle expressions, for example in physics we find electromagnetism and gravity and some sub-nuclear forces; and beneath those we move into a nonphysical field of existence in which there appears to be nothing at all; but clearly this is where we see the source of the outward, physical expression. This area on the chart is sometimes called the transcendental field of existence. Or the unified field of natural law. We might also call this the spiritual dimension of existence. It is where the laws of nature originate. It is where the life beyond the physical exists.
This, according to the scientists who have studied it, is where our consciousness exists, within and beyond our gross, physical body. Within this transcendental field our individual consciousness is located and has its source. And, as it’s outside the range of the physical body there is reason to believe that our consciousness may be existing independently of the body, eternally, before and after the existence of the physical body – just as some of the religions have been asking us to have faith about. If there is but one thing that we can thank the religions for it is that they have, over the centuries and for everyone’s benefit, perpetuated the belief that there is a spiritual, greater dimension to our lives.
You’re probably familiar with the idea that you have a spiritual soul. Here, somewhere in the transcendental field, is where your soul would be located, as is your consciousness. Your spiritual soul and your eternal consciousness could be seen to be the same. By that reckoning, you do not have a soul, you are a soul. Here, today, in this body, you are a soul. You have a body. You are not your body. You are a soul which now occupies a body. When you say ”I am” you could say, “I am a soul. I am a spiritual soul.” And as that spiritual soul, you are deeply immersed in, and part of, the wholeness of life itself. You have an immediate and total connection to the whole of life itself, being part of it.
Our deeper thoughts come from our consciousness, our soul; this is where our intuition comes from, this is where our sense of connectedness to life comes from. This is where our deeper love comes from.
So the next question now would be, how do you live as a soul? How do you access and make use of the intelligence and energy of life itself? How do you access and express the love of life itself?
We need first of all to look at how we presently live on the surface of life, in everyday life. Do we live as a soul connected to the whole of life, or do we live as a body, separate from everyone and everything? Let’s look at that in the next section.
And I’d like to say a few words about my own experiences in this. I’ll do this in the next lecture.
Lecture 23: Going Deeper
Back in the 1980s, I practised Transcendental Meditation, or TM as it’s often called.
I’m not going to suggest that you practise TM because it requires something of a change of lifestyle, not to mention costing a lot to learn these days. Though that’s not to say that I didn’t find TM to be extremely beneficial – I did, and still do, years after having stopped practising it.
But I think I can offer you some of the understandings I gained from practising TM without you having to learn and practise it.
I learned to practise TM because I was told that it would help me fulfil my own potential. In fact shortly after learning the basic practice of TM I went on to learn and practise an advanced form of TM, now popularly known as Yogic Flying. I’m adding some resources to this lecture to show you something of what I’m talking about.
The whole idea of TM is to transcend, or go deeper than, or go beyond, the ordinary, waking state of the mind and settle the mind into the transcendental field of consciousness, which is a very quiet state of mind. In that state of mind, the body can release stress effectively, thus improving health, mood and overall well-being. More importantly, it enables one to get in touch with one’s deeper levels of consciousness, and deepest state of being, absolute pure being, which is a state of deep silence and deep rest. And it gives you the idea that your consciousness is a lot more than you’d previously known it to be.
The yogic flying program, taking this further, enables one to engage in action from those deeper states of being. Doing so, one is drawing from a very powerful field of being, and stirring the laws of nature themselves.
TM teaches that there is a single field of consciousness, a field of creative intelligence, of which our individual consciousness is part, and that when we are meditating we are having a beneficial effect not just on ourselves but also on other people too. It is reckoned that if 1% of a population were meditating, it would have a significant, beneficial effect on the quality of life for the entire population.
With the more powerful yogic flying technique, when practised as a group, only the square root of 1% of a population is needed to benefit the entire population’s quality of life. So in the case of Britain where I was practising yogic flying, a group of only 800 people would be enough to improve the quality of life of the whole nation, approaching 64 million population.
In scientifically analogous terms, yogic flying was reckoned to be the equivalent of laser light by comparison with the light from an ordinary lightbulb.
When we were practising yogic flying in large groups, when we were able to achieve a high degree of group unity by virtue of all of us being in the transcendental field at the same time, statistical research was carried out which proved that our practice of yogic flying had pronounced benefits for the whole of Britain; or for Europe when we were joining yogic flyers from around Europe.
I tell you this to show you that I have practical experience of the benefits of accessing the power of the transcendental field of consciousness, which I am asking you to access, though without you having to practise the transcendental meditation.
You will be able to access the power of the transcendental field of consciousness simply by recognising that that is where your own consciousness is located; identifying yourself as that consciousness, and recognising that you have access to the whole of that field of consciousness which is infinite, creative and very powerful.
To understand that better, you could begin to relate it, just vaguely at this stage, to what some religions talk about as the spiritual dimension of life.
You will be able to access even more of that power, albeit not on the same scale as we were with our yogic flying, when you have a degree of unity with another person, more so with a group of people, but we’ll come to how you can do that, later.
Lecture 24: Deeper Into Life And Love
If you’re going to access and utilise the greater dimension of love in your life, there are six main things for you to do:
First, you must recognise that you are a spiritual soul, and as such an embodiment of love, and you are seated in the spiritual dimension of life now, here, today, tomorrow and always.
Second, you must be who you really are; you must identify yourself as a soul, and realise and actualise yourself as a soul in your everyday life in order to draw on the universal, infinite and unconditional love that you are.
Third, you must get a better idea of what your purpose in life is; you’re a unique person, do you have a unique purpose? What does your life suggest your purpose is? Have you ever thought your life might have a particular purpose? What have you ever thought your purpose might be? To what extent are you already living it? How could you add more of your purpose to your life?
It’s quite possible that you’re already living your purpose to quite some degree, and your life’s circumstances and activities might reflect that. As I said earlier, in the lecture about unconsciously opening your heart, I believe that the subconscious or unconscious part of our mind is more active than we realise, and it may have been steering us in the right direction all our life.
Fourth, you must reorientate your life to that purpose as fully as you can, in order to align yourself most productively to the universal, infinite and unconditional love, and to its creative intelligence and organising power, that you have at your disposal.
Fifth, you must be an embodiment of love in action, towards yourself, towards your family and friends, to strangers on the street, to workmates, members of groups you’re in, your neighbours and community, and to the wider world, to whatever extent is appropriate in your circumstances, and to the extent you’re able to.
And sixth, you need to see more love in the world. The world we see out there is a reflection of the love we have within us. If we want the world to look more loving, we need to see it through more loving eyes. Then we’ll see that the world is already full of love; it simply needs to be brought to your attention by virtue of you knowing it. Does all of that sound like a circular argument? That’s exactly what it is. The world you see is how you see it. So see the love in the world, and then respond to it lovingly, and help to bring it out more, in the people and circumstances you’re engaging with.
“If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change.” (Mahatma Gandhi – again!)
In these ways you’ll be able to access a deeper level of love in your life, and you’ll discover more of the power that love has to transform the world around you.
Lecture 25: Section Conclusion
What we have done in this section is to open a window into the greater dimensions of your life. We have established that there is what, for our purposes, may best be described as a spiritual dimension to our lives, a dimension where we may say our real self is located and exists, here, today and always.
The scientific study of consciousness points to this as a reality. I have added some resources to this lecture to enable you to see some of the scientific research.
The spiritual dimension is where we are connected to the whole of life, where we have access to the whole of life, where the laws of nature have their source, where the intelligence, energy and love which life is have their source. We are therefore left to see ourselves as part of something extremely powerful, infinite as far as we can tell, and the source of universal and unconditional love.
We have established that our consciousness, what we might call our individual soul, is seated in that dimension. There is reason to believe that as a soul we are eternal and it is only our body which is temporary and will die. We are not a body which has a soul, somewhere. Rather, we are a soul, here, now and always, which has a body – for now.
The soul, being eternal, has a great deal of interest in this life, your life. The soul, together with the spiritual dimensions of which it is part, is concerned with the opportunities that this physical incarnation of yours provides, whether as a source of spiritual growth, or as an opportunity for service to mankind, or the Earth, or the greater whole, in some way; or for some other purpose which you’re the best judge of – though whatever it is, it’s probably got something to do with love.
One might think that it’s the ego, your outward sense of being alive and being who you are, which has the most invested in this life, because this lifetime will be all the ego has. However, the ego is best understood to be a tool for living whatever the purpose of your life is. It is important therefore, to have a good sense of what your life is really all about.
To do this, having opened the window into the greater dimensions of our life, we need to develop an understanding of what our soul has in mind for this life and explore how to access the resources which life, in its material and spiritual dimensions, affords us.
In this course we are discussing how we may learn to love more. The whole thrust of this course is that we may access the universal, infinite and unconditional love of the greater, spiritual dimension of life. It is the universal, infinite and unconditional love of the greater spiritual dimension of life that is the motive power and creative intelligence behind our life. So we need now to reorientate ourselves towards living a life of love as our real, spiritual selves here today, in this body, in this material life of ours.
Section 6 : Identification With Ego Or Soul
Lecture 26 : Section Introduction
The purpose of this section is to consider to what extent you live as if you are separate from everyone and everything, or connected to everyone and everything.
As we were growing up we developed an identity for ourselves, a personality, and an approach to life, all of which are distinctly our own. To do this we developed our ego. The ego is a tool we use to develop our individuality, our personality and our front, or face, or image through which we relate to other people and through which other people will identify us and relate to us.
The question we now need to ask ourselves is: is this ego a true representation of our real self, or have we given ourselves an identity entirely of our own design bearing little relation to our real self, our soul?
Let’s see in this section.
Lecture 27: Identification With The Ego
You might argue that the identity, or ego, you have created for yourself enables you to be successful in your life. It enables you to achieve what you want for yourself. And this would largely be because you believe that all you have to work with is your individual, separate self, your ego.
Let’s see to what extent you have developed a strong ego to help you through your life. In the Resources section of this lecture you will find a worksheet questionnaire which will help you to calculate the strength of your ego.
I’d appreciate it if you would go to this questionnaire now and answer the questions, add up the total and read my comments about the strength of your ego and its effectiveness in your life.
Ideally, do this before you go on to the next lecture.
Lecture 28: Identification with your soul
Welcome back. Now let’s look at the degree to which you identify yourself as a soul. This means how much you consider yourself essentially to be a spiritual being, connected with everyone and everything, living your life as part of the whole of life, and drawing on the resources and organising power that the whole of life provides.
Again, there is a worksheet questionnaire in the Resources section of this lecture. I’d appreciate it if you would download it now, answer the questions on it as honestly and objectively as you can (only you will see these results), and add up the total. Again you will find my comments about the extent to which you are identifying yourself as a soul.
To whatever extent you identify yourself as a soul and also as a distinct, individual personality, or ego, this will determine the extent to which you are skilfully drawing on the resources of the greater whole of life and whatever resources and opportunities you can make good use of for your soul-driven purposes, from what you find around you.
Identifying yourself as a soul you might feel that you have an immense reservoir to draw upon, and you will surely tend to be a giving person. You might also feel that things generally work out for you very well, without much effort. You may feel very blessed in your life.
That is not to say that people who are ego-driven are not successful – on the contrary, they very often are; but we’re talking here about drawing on the creative intelligence, organising power and love of the whole of life which, I can say fairly categorically, ego-driven people do not, to anything like the same extent.
Lecture 29 : Section Conclusion
It’s my belief, based on my understandings and experience, that the more we are oriented towards ourselves as a soul, accessing the greater, spiritual dimensions of our life, the more love we will draw upon, and the more love we will express, give to others, and feel within ourselves.
Also, in drawing upon the greater, spiritual dimensions of life, we will draw upon the most positive, uplifting, constructive and holistic organising power of life, which will be for everyone’s benefit.
Hence the purpose of this course, to inspire, encourage and enable you to do that – to love more, and specifically to draw on the greater spiritual dimensions of your life for the benefits it brings you and others.
I’d now like to go on, in the next section, to discuss some of the practical ways in which you could love more.
Section 7 : Are you “Service to Self” or “Service to Others”?
Lecture 30 : Section Introduction
Mahatma Gandhi said, “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”
It is said, by some, that there are only two types of people in the world; one can be called “Service to Self” and the other can be called “Service to Others”. And that if more than half the people in the world were “Service to Others”, the world would be a very different place indeed.
A “Service to Self” person is one who is primarily concerned in his or her everyday life with himself or herself. Such a person could reasonably be called selfish, self-centred, preoccupied with their own affairs. You would not take it for granted that such a person would be very helpful, whenever asked, unless there was money for them to make, and they’re probably better left well alone. Or you could give it a try, but don’t be too surprised if you get turned down.
It’s more than likely that such a person would be more oriented towards their ego than their soul. Such a person would not readily extend their love to others, except for their own advantage; when, of course, it wouldn’t really be love.
A “Service to Others” person, on the other hand, is primarily concerned with the interests of others, which could mean other people, whether individuals, communities, nations; with animals, nature in all its forms, the environment, the planet and so on. This is the sort of person who you might imagine would be helpful, whenever asked. And potentially somewhat over-burdened by too many people’s expectations, which they ought to avoid becoming too over-burdened by!!
It’s more than likely that such a “Service to Others” person would be more oriented towards their soul than their ego. Such a person would readily extend their love to others, and it would be real love.
Therefore, one may say that “Service to Others” is a higher kind of love than “Service to Self”. We can look that a little closer because it may not be quite so straightforward.
We can look a little closer by considering how one might become less of a “Service to Self” person and more of a “Service to Others” person.
In this way we can learn some of the ways in which we can love more, specifically in ways which would be beneficial and pleasurable for others, whilst also making it a beneficial and pleasurable experience for oneself. Love relationships don’t work well if they are too one-sided.
However, this is not quite as straightforward as one might imagine. And there are some pitfalls to be avoided when you’re giving your love, in some circumstances, and this section, this “Service to Self” versus “Service to Others” section, is a good place to address these things.
Let’s go on to the next lecture.
Lecture 31 : Becoming less “Service to Self”
The thing about loving other people, especially in relation to how it impacts upon other people, is that it isn’t necessarily welcomed by them, and it isn’t necessarily the best thing for them.
We need to be aware of what we’re doing when we’re loving other people.
For instance, the other person might not want your love, or might feel indebted to you in some way, that either they can’t repay for some reason, or simply don’t want to, and therefore might feel uncomfortable about being on the receiving end of your love, in whatever form it takes.
Also there are times when it’s not appropriate to help people; it’s maybe better that they learn to take responsibility for themselves, or in some other way do something, or learn to be something on their own, without anybody’s help. Sometimes it’s difficult to know what the situation is that one is feeling like becoming involved in, giving one’s help to, giving one’s love to.
Sometimes the more loving thing is to stand back, or walk away, and watch the train wreck, figuratively speaking, from a good distance; whilst, if it’s appropriate, being prepared to come in later and offer the kind of love that might be more appropriate at that stage.
Sometimes it’s easier not to extend your love to people; sometimes it’s easier to avoid getting involved with other people; sometimes it’s the right thing not to get involved.
So you might say, with some justification, that it’s better to be a Service to Self type of person, because when you’re looking after yourself, you’re not depending on other people’s help so much, you’re taking responsibility for yourself, and you’re keeping out of other people’s way. Certainly, there’s something to be said for that.
However when you’re spending your life in that way, you’re separating yourself from the rest of the world; and that is not consistent with being a spiritual soul, connected through spirit, with everyone and everything. It’s probably not going to be consistent with your soul’s purpose; you’re living a life which is not what your soul intended for you in this life; what you’re doing is living the life of your ego. That is, unless you’re striking a proper balance between taking responsibility for yourself and taking responsibility for others.
The proper balance is that you do take responsibility for yourself, and you do take responsibility for others, as is appropriate in your circumstances.
For instance, in the developed world, we may be a child living as part of a family; the family would expect us, once we are out of the total dependency of early childhood, to be taking some responsibility for ourselves – keeping our bedroom tidy; behaving well at school, learning our lessons, developing social skills at home and with friends. Whilst this is going on, our parents are looking after our well being, earning money to keep us housed and fed and clothed – taking responsibility for us.
As we get older, our parents increasingly expect us to take more responsibility for ourselves, eventually becoming independent, at which point our responsibility for ourselves becomes more or less total. And at which point you might feel it’s best to be more “Service to Self” oriented, because you need to create a solid basis for your life.
In less developed parts of the world, it may be that we live in a tribe, in which case, the tribe will look after us as we grow up, but we may have to start becoming responsible within the tribe quite early; and as we get older we may need to continue to take responsibility within the tribe whilst, at the same time, the tribe is taking responsibility for us; it’s a give and take situation for the whole tribe; the tribe needs everyone to play their part. At which point you might feel it’s best to be more “Service to Others” oriented, because it will work better for the tribe and for yourself.
And you might say that even in the developed world, the same is true – the community needs us to play our part; though the way this works is that we pay taxes so that the Government, local or national, provides a lot of the infrastructure and basic services for us. Equally, if we’re a member of a group of some sort, or working for a company, it might serve our purposes best if we were “Service to Others” oriented.
So, even though we may appear to be “Service to Self” oriented, we might expect to have to contribute to the “other” in order for our life to work smoothly. Then we are creating something of a balance between taking responsibility for ourselves and for others, even though we may think we’re taking out more than we’re putting in. Actually we’re all taking out more than we’re putting in; that’s the way life works; that’s the benefit of being part of a greater whole.
What, therefore, would be the benefit to us of becoming less “Service to Self” oriented?
The benefit would be enormous because we would be living more as a soul, drawing on the greater, spiritual whole for its resources and organising power, to create something far better than we have now, if we’re living more as an ego which is mostly detached from the spiritual whole, and not living the purpose of our soul.
So let’s see what it means to be more “Service to Others” oriented, in the next lecture.
Lecture 32 : Becoming More “Service To Others”
You may already be “Service to Others” (STO) oriented.
If you have taken responsibilities in your family, such as bringing up children, or looking after elderly parents, you may already be STO oriented, and a considerable part of your life is devoted to those responsibilities.
You may have a responsible position at work, with lots of employees and customers, and owners or shareholders, you may be a teacher or work in some organisation where you have big responsibilities of one sort or another. You probably feel that your life is devoted to other people’s needs, and if you like things being that way, you’re probably STO oriented.
There are one of two things I’d like to discuss with you, in the interests of helping you to be more loving in your STO role, and helping you to access the resources and organising power of the greater spiritual whole, which should make your life easier, more fulfilling and more rewarding.
Let’s take these things one at a time:
How open is your heart? Does your STO role stir your heart, give you that warm glow in your heart that fills your day with pleasure?
Do you truly feel that your STO is a labour of love in which your love is the driving force behind all your STO activities?
Do you find that your STO activities work smoothly, effortlessly and are supported well by others and even, seemingly, by the universe or life itself because sometimes things happen in the most wonderful, timely, coincidental and synchronous way?
Or, on the contrary, you find that your STO activities tire you out. You feel you’re taken advantage of, abused, even, and actually you don’t enjoy what you’re doing. Things don’t work out all that well.
Do you, in fact, do your STO out of duty, obligations, pressure from others, force of circumstances, being driven by your ego to do STO to earn a higher status, or more wealth, or other factors which mean that there really isn’t much love there, is there?
So, what we’re looking for here is to change your STO into something much more positive, a greater expression of love, more spiritually uplifting for yourself and others, more life-supporting, drawing more on the beneficence of the universe, and more in keeping with what your soul desires for you.
Your present circumstances may really be no barrier to any of this. It’s maybe that all you need to do is to agree that you want your life to be more fulfilling and enjoyable in those ways, and then set about considering how you can do that in your present circumstances.
For example you can use some of the methods I’ve suggested to help you learn to love more. You may find lots of opportunities in your present circumstances to love more. In fact, this is probably the key to changing the whole complexion of your STO.
Your circumstances may respond extremely well to the greater love that you’re expressing.
On the other hand, you may find that you get abused more, with people laying even more expectations on you, which you would rightly feel are just not right. It may be that your circumstances, all the circumstances in which you are working, just don’t lend themselves to responding appropriately to your loving STO. In which case, there may be no alternative to either saying, “no”, or getting yourself out of those circumstances. It’s not easy to say “no”, especially for someone who likes doing things for others, but it’s important that you say “no” when it’s appropriate.
So it’s up to you to judge whether your STO is genuinely an expression of your love and your soul’s desire, or it’s you doing things out of necessity, duty, obligation, pressure from others, pressure from your ego or some other circumstance which really isn’t stirring your heart in the right way, which you really don’t enjoy, and isn’t really love.
When you look at your situation in that way, you’d find it productive to work out how you can improve things for yourself, whilst also finding ways of being STO, giving other people the benefit of your heartfelt love, and helping the wider world out in some way.
Lecture 33 : Section Conclusion
“What the world needs now, is love, sweet love, it’s the only thing that there’s just too little of.”
There are difficult situations and circumstances all over the place, locally, nationally and globally, which need to be transformed by the uplifting power of love. You may know it, and you may want to do something about it. If so, you need to go about it in the right way. You know what that means; it means looking for a Win-Win situation where there are benefits on all sides, including yours; hopefully even spin-off benefits for others too, who are not directly involved.
“Service to Others” is clearly an expression of love; it goes beyond serving your own interests, even if you could justify that kind of serving in terms of taking responsibility for yourself. It’s good to take responsibility for yourself. It’s even better if you can take some responsibility for others as well. You could look at it as a higher kind of love, the kind we need to aspire to as we develop ourselves as part of the human society and part of the greater spiritual whole.
Remember, though, that balance between “Service to Others” and “Service to Self” is crucially important. Strive to achieve an appropriate balance for the circumstances you’re in.
Now, or later when you’re ready, we’ll go on to the next section where we can look at various, different aspects of your life in which you can love more, for your own benefit and others’ too, in that balanced way.
Section 8 : The Applications Of Love
Lecture 34 : Section Introduction
In this section we’re going to look at how you can love more in your life; whether at home with your family and with your friends; at work or in a group of some sort that you’re a member of; in the world at large, that is, the larger world in which you live and participate; this could mean your sphere of interest and your sphere of influence even encompassing the entire world, say, for example, the world environment as a whole, or injustices around the world that you would like to help address.
But before we consider how you might change the world, let’s start by looking at how much you love, and do justice to, yourself.
Lecture 35 : Love For Yourself
Earlier in the course we looked at how you can understand who you really are. We discovered that what the religions have been telling us, that there is a spiritual dimension to our lives, can also be understood in more scientific terms, as our consciousness being located in the field of life which is pure, self-sustaining energy and creative intelligence, that is, the transcendental field or the unified field of natural law.
We have an individualised consciousness which, for want of a more scientific word, we can understand to be a soul. We are a soul. We gain a body, and a mind, as we are born into this world. Mind, body and soul, or spirit, in one amazing package, an embodied soul, and an ensouled body, if you like.
What does this say about who we are? Unless we are going to deny that there is the spiritual dimension to our lives, in which our soul or spirit is located; unless we are saying that our consciousness is merely the outcome of our brain’s activity, as many scientists believe, then we must recognise that our soul is part of a larger consciousness, or spirit; that our non-physical soul has an Interface with that larger, spiritual dimension, and has access to all of it. And therefore you might reasonably say that this confirms what the religions have said, that we are children of the creator, so to speak. Actually, literally, but in a form we can find difficult to imagine.
So, when we look in the mirror, do we see ourselves as a body or a soul? If we see ourselves as a body, we probably have some complaints about how we look. If we see ourselves as a soul, we recognise ourselves to be awesome beyond our own understanding, and worthy of the most intense love we can conjure up in our hearts. Wouldn’t this be a good way to start the day?
If we can see ourselves first and foremost as a spiritual soul, and awesome beyond our ability to imagine, we ought to love ourselves with a love which is unconditional and without bounds. We should have a lot more respect for ourselves. We should recognise that we have no idea of our own potential, especially now that we recognise that we can draw on the energy and creative intelligence of the spiritual dimension of our life. We should take more responsibility for ourselves and what we do. We should recognise that we have a purpose in our lives which is worthwhile, not just for ourselves but for others too, and we should know what our purpose is, rather than exercising our free will to do whatever our ego wants us to do.
Looking at ourselves like this as we look into the mirror in the morning should give us a pretty good start to the day. Your eyes are the window to your soul. So when you look into the mirror, look into your eyes and say, “I love me.”
Lecture 36 : Love With Family And Friends
In the last lecture I asked you to look at yourself with unconditional love, as the awesome soul that you really are. Could you look at your family and friends in the same way?
It’s very easy to get caught up in personalities, and all the dynamics of family life. But if we were to see each other as spiritual souls, all equal in status as part of that greater spiritual consciousness of which we’re all part, all growing as souls through life’s experiences, all with a worthwhile and important purpose in our lives, even though we may not know what each other’s purpose is, we should be able to relate to each other more on the level of each other as a soul than a personality or an ego. And in that way, the basis of our relationships with each other should be one of unconditional love.
We do, of course, also relate to each other on the basis of conditional love, that is we enjoy each other in a great variety of ways, not least in the case of families, on the basis that we are members of the same family, and that sense of belonging to the family is important to us. “I love you because you are my mother, my father, brother, sister, son, daughter, whatever.” This is a valid and powerful reason to love, and should not be under-valued by comparison with the unconditional soul love that you have added as the basis to the more conditional forms of love.
Family relations offer opportunities for the most intense expressions and experiences of love. One’s spouse or partner, one would hope, would be the focus of the most intense love, physically and emotionally; children also can be loved almost more than one can bear; mother, father, brother, sister can be loved, even through all the years of dysfunction that many families suffer.
Even so, the knowledge that we are all spiritual souls should add more of the unconditionality of love within the family. Whenever you find your love is overshadowed by day-to-day events, even by the rigours of family life over the years, your unconditional love should shine like a sun that never sets.
The same should apply with friends, who are close enough to your heart to enjoy an ongoing, loving relationship with; your recognition of them as souls, and your unconditional love for them as souls, should make the light of your conditional love shine ever more brightly.
Lecture 37 : Love At Work Or In Groups
As I said in the last lecture, your appreciation of people as spiritual souls like yourself should enable you to shine the light of unconditional love in any relationships, and now I’d like to include the connections or interactions you have at work or in a group you’re a member of.
Here I’m most interested in showing you the benefits of loving more within a group, whether at work or otherwise where there is a group activity or objective going on.
You know the idea that a group can be greater than the sum of its parts, at least potentially. You know there is such a thing as “team spirit” which helps the team to achieve more, and football coaches, for example, are always working to increase team spirit and cohesion.
It’s true that groups can achieve more than individuals. Certainly it’s true that individuals can achieve some really amazing things on their own, such as writing a bestselling book or creating a wonderful work of art.
But a group can draw on a great deal of creative organising power which somehow makes things work more effectively, faster and more effortlessly. This can happen when there is a specific purpose to which all the group are committed and have the skills to achieve or can draw on the resources they need. This can only happen, though, when group is very cohesive and focused. It won’t happen when members of the group are at each other’s throats, arguing, competing with each other and generally making the group work difficult.
The quality of group interaction that will give rise to the level of cohesiveness or team spirit that is needed to generate this X factor for success is love: love in the sense of fellowship and sharing of the group objectives, openness and honesty in one’s interactions with group members, respect, appreciation, tolerance, generosity, helpfulness, gratitude, understanding, sincerity, courtesy, persistence and a deep sense of togetherness and other qualities which can bind the group together.
This group cohesion generates an organising power which draws on the creative intelligence of life itself. Synchronicity develops from which surprisingly beneficial things can happen. Amazing coincidences can happen. A sense that the group activity has a momentum of its own which makes everything happen very easily becomes pervasive, ever-present. There’s a sense that the feeling that goes with this does not happen when one is on one’s own or working with a group which is not cohesive and focused in that way.
So I recommend that when you are working with other people you can contribute significantly to the success of the groups work by offering as much love as you can to the group, your unconditional love in recognition that you are all awesome spiritual souls, and by offering the various qualities of love that I mentioned earlier such as respect, appreciation, tolerance and so on.
I’m sure, having experienced that sort of thing myself, you would find it very enjoyable and satisfying. In fact you may always want to be with a group working in that way, rather than being on your own.
This goes to show that if whole communities, nations, the world even, were to share a wonderful objective, and work at it together, they could move mountains together, very easily.
I’ll talk some more about this in the next lecture.
Lecture 38 : Love In Your World
Lots of us want to change the world. Some of us want to change a little bit of it, such as our local community, some of us want to change the whole world.
If you want to change some of the world, realistically-speaking you need a group. It could be your group that you would start, someone else’s group that you would join, or a group that you would support in some way.
I spoke in the last lecture about how you can help to make a group stronger, and what the attributes of a strong group are. I said that the qualities of love are the ones which best help groups to achieve the cohesiveness and team spirit to help them achieve their objectives.
A woman by the name of Margaret Mead who was a well-known commentator in America in the 1960s and 70s is said to have said, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”
I agree with that, that it’s possible for a small group to achieve very big things. But they could only do that, I believe, if they were highly cohesive, skilled and focused on their objectives.
Better still, a larger group, but the larger the group the more difficult it is to achieve the necessary degree of cohesion. Perhaps better that a number of smaller, highly cohesive groups who share the same objective would work together, harmonising their various skills.
Back in the early 1990s, I was a member, one of the first members, of a group whose mission was to learn, and teach, how to create unity within groups and between groups. This was primarily to create healing groups, but the principles would apply to other groups too.
This was after I had been a member of the consciousness-raising groups practising Yogic Flying, as I described earlier. And after I’d had some even earlier experiences of the power of cohesive groups. I’ve added a file to the Resources section of this lecture in which I’ve described my various experiences with groups; it’s worth reading because my experiences have been quite extraordinary, and they are part of the key to why I feel qualified to write this course with its emphasis on living as a soul and drawing from the greater, spiritual dimension of life.
So I’m aware of the value of being a member of a cohesive group, and aware of how such cohesion can be achieved. For our purposes here, I would distill the various methods of achieving cohesion, or unity, within a group into one method: love.
If you want to change the world, or some part of the world, and you know the particular thing you want to change, and you know how it can be done, find a group to do it with, a group which has the same objective as yourself; support it with your love, whether that means working directly with it, or using their platform if it helps you and them achieve complementary objectives, as I’m doing with Udemy, or supporting it in some way, financially, or giving them your time and skills, or signing up to their campaigns, and so on.
However you do it, do it first and foremost in the spirit of love.
Lecture 39 : The Law Of Attraction
On a slightly different tack, here’s another way in which you can use your love beneficially.
You’ve probably heard people talking about “The Law Of Attraction”.
They’re talking about something that has become popular in recent years, though it’s something that has always been talked about and applied in one way or another, such as through prayer or making a wish; but this latest method is called “The Law Of Attraction”.
Fortunately, neither prayer nor making wishes nor the Law Of Attraction work instantly. It’s just as well. Imagine what the world would be like if our wishes came true instantly. Even so, the Law Of Attraction ought to come with some words of caution, such as: “Be careful what you wish for, for it will surely be yours.”
The modern version of “The Law Of Attraction” offers a variety of techniques to help you attract what you want in your life.
My own feeling is that indeed we should be careful what we wish for, for it will surely be ours.
I want to offer a suggestion which you will see fits happily into the context of this course, because it urges you to use your love at the level of your soul in order to attract what you want.
It seems to me that most people who use the Law Of Attraction do so from the level of their ego. “Oh Lord, won’t you buy me a Mercedes-Benz, my friends all have Porsches, I must make amends”, as Janis Joplin sings.
The Law Of Attraction certainly does work if you persist with your determination to attract something into your life, if you visualise it as if you already have it, if you take whatever action could contribute towards attracting it (such as earning enough money to buy it), but how often will it be that you find that it doesn’t bring you the joy you expected, and will turn out to be burden for you or not appropriate for you in some way. This is what can happen when you allow your ego to use the Law Of Attraction.
A much safer way to attract things, and a much surer way of attracting the right things in your life, is to attract from the level of your soul.
If you pay attention to what your soul is encouraging you to do, you will more likely find that you are guided to attract into your life exactly what you need, no more, no less, in the fastest conceivable time, with the least effort and with the least expenditure. You will not regret attracting such things into your life. You may never get your Mercedes-Benz but you could be thankful that you didn’t. It might only have brought you grief in the end.
The Law Of Attraction is therefore a very good exercise for you. You should always be paying attention to what your soul is guiding you to do.
Your soul is always guiding you in the spirit of love, and in the same spirit of love, your ego, that part of you which lives outwardly in this material world, should allow that soul part of you to guide your ego’s actions in the outer world and also to manage the hidden machinations of life that will cooperate together to help bring what your heart and soul desire in the most wonderfully effortless way you could imagine.
In the Resources section of this lecture you’ll find an exercise to do, with guidelines to follow. But I’ll run through the guidelines now so that I can cover the main points with you.
Firstly, as I said earlier, we need to recognise that the part of us that is our soul is very heavily invested in this life, and can be trusted to help us attract into our life what is best for us. The soul always acts in a spirit of love, and will never attract something that is less than the best for us. So we should be open to what our soul would bring into our life, if we would but pay attention to what it is offering.
We should at all times be attentive to what the soul has in mind for this life of ours. We have free will, certainly, and our soul will not interfere with our ego and its self-created motivations; but our soul is the one we should be listening to. So before trying to bring anything else into your life, spend some time working out what your life is all about, from the point of view of your soul. This may take a little time, and should be an ongoing adventure for your ego to develop a successful partnership with your soul.
What you are looking for is the greatest expression of love in your life. This will be a good guide to what your soul is hoping for. It’s probable that you will be seeking to do something which would be of great benefit to other people, to humanity, part or the whole all humanity; or to animals, some part of nature, the environment or what have you.
When you feel you have a sense of what it would be good for you to attract into your life, in those terms I’ve just described, that is, what your soul would most like to see in your life, create a mindset which will manifest it into your life.
That is, envisage that thing in your life in its proper context, and how it will be working. See yourself in that context, working with it in a way that makes you feel very good, fulfilled, and loving. See the results of what you are doing, in any way which shows how successful this thing is, in creating the effect you’re imagining.
Really put your heart into this, into the manifestation of what you are imagining. Persist with it. It may take some time, depending on what it is, and what it takes for the creative energy behind the process to manifest it in the most holistic way; that is, in such a way that the most benefit for all concerned will be created.
You’ll need to take action. It’s best to use the least action you’ll need, because this will be most in line with the creative process you are invoking.
For example, if you want some food, you should go to a food shop, reach into your pocket for the money and pay for it yourself. If you already have the money, or any other thing, you don’t need to magically manifest it from somewhere else. That’s even if you think you’re running short of money to buy something else tomorrow. You need to develop confidence in the process you are learning how to use. You may find that the thing that you thought you would need money for tomorrow, you no longer need the money for because someone has given it to you, or you didn’t need it after all.
You need to be aware of how the process of manifestation is working for you, because the confidence that you develop is part of the manifestation process.
So use the Law Of Attraction. Use it because it is part of the creative process of life, and you yourself are nothing if not creative. Know that you can create. Remember that the creative force is love. Create with love, if you would create the very best thing for you.
Lecture 40 : Section Conclusion
In this section we’ve looked at how you can love in various different spheres of your life, spheres ranging from loving yourself, through family and friends, people at work and in groups, all the way up to putting your love to work in the entire world to change things on a global scale.
You’ll have noticed the words “unconditional love” and “soul” coming up time and again, and that’s because loving the unconditional love from the level of your soul is the key to living the good life, and loving the good life.
Unconditional love is the quality of love that your soul loves; unconditional love is the soul’s nature, and spirit, as it is life’s nature and spirit too.
When we love unconditionally from the level of the soul, we have a sound basis for all our activities and all our relationships. Let any kind of aspect, or quality of love, and any kind of conditional, “because” kind of love sit on the top of your unconditional love and if there is no incongruency, no inconsistency there, then you have a right basis for how you’re doing your loving.
Unconditional love means love without condition, and this can be given only by the soul which is the very embodiment of unconditional love, the soul which is part of life itself, an individualized spark of that life whose nature and spirit is love – love which is sufficient unto itself, infinite, universal and unconditional.
Without that foundation of unconditional love, expressed as the spirit of your soul, you would have an uncertain basis for your loving.
So whichever sphere of your life you’re loving in, however you’re interacting with anyone or anything in your environment, you can be your own guide from the level of your soul, keeping the unconditional love of your soul at the foremost, forefront of your mind and heart, and you will guide yourself right.
Section 9 : Your World Of Love
Lecture 41 : Section Introduction
I’m taking you on a journey to greater and greater expressions of love. What I mean by that is a greater and greater framework in which you can express your love. At every stage of this journey, you’ll be doing the same thing, only more so; you simply need to love; love more than before, and love more in more contexts than before.
The greater framework I’m explaining to you will give you a sense of the scope of the life you live, for example the spiritual dimensions of your life, and the groups, communities, nations and the whole Earth in which you live and interact, in whatever ways you do; and also a sense of the power that your love can have when expressed in those different areas of your life.
I’m going to take a giant leap for mankind now by looking at the largest framework that I know of, which I feel is appropriate to discuss with you in this course, and also the greatest power that I believe you realistically can draw upon with your love.
To do this I’m going to draw on what I’ve learnt through my studies, what my observations have been regarding the validity of what I’ve learnt, and my experiences of how this knowledge can work in everyday life.
Most of this largest framework has to be a matter for conjecture and speculation, in rather the same way that the religions teach their teachings, asking for your faith and belief, and the scientists develop their theories about things that are way beyond our ability to see for ourselves, and they do their best to prove them to us; but by being open to these teachings and theories, and observing how they are regarded by the experts in the field, also by learning about people’s experiences of such things, one can infer for oneself the truth or otherwise. And inference is a valid way of gaining knowledge.
I was told many years ago, by someone I respect, that I should never be dogmatic. I’ve learnt that was very good advice. If I really don’t know for sure what I’m talking about, or even if I am sure in some cases, I shouldn’t express myself as if what I’m talking about is absolute, incontestable, incontrovertible fact.
With that caveat in mind, let me take you where no man has gone before; well, at least, where not very many men and women have gone before.
I’m going to put it to you that you are life itself, living itself. You have the DNA of life, that is, the spiritual DNA of life, so to speak, within you.
You are not the whole of life, but part of life. Some scientists say that life is holographic, that is, when you break a hologram into pieces, each piece mirrors the whole of the hologram. Other scientists say that life is fractal, which means that each new piece is a perfect replica, though smaller, version of the whole.
To justify this, I am going to discuss again, who you really are, by drawing on a number of different life views, or conceptions of what life is, in the next lecture. And then, I’m going to discuss the implications of this for you, in your life, and demonstrate to you what I wanted to do at the very beginning of the course that, truly, you are an embodiment of love.
Lecture 42 : Who Are You Really? – Pt 2
Earlier in the course, I asked you to consider who you are, really. I asked you to see beyond your outer personality, your ego, and all the labels we all apply to ourselves, such as your name, your occupation, your faith, gender, sexuality and so on; and to recognise that first and foremost you are a spiritual being, an individual soul or spirit, with a consciousness which is part of a greater spiritual consciousness; and you have a body in which you live your life in this physical, material world.
Who we are really, we discussed, each of us, is a spiritual soul, an individualised soul, a spark of the greater spiritual consciousness.
But is that all we can say about ourselves? If we are an individualised spirit, how do we relate to the greater whole of spirit? How did we become an individualised spirit, a soul?
And what does this mean? Is there some purpose to us becoming an individualised spirit, or were we something that somehow just fell off the greater wholeness of spirit? And if so, does our life really count for anything, or can we live it as if the world is our oyster, to do with what we will, so to speak?
Let’s look at some of the teachings from various sources which can offer us a sense of who we really are, where do we come from, how long have we got?
I should say before I start that this lecture may get pretty heavy, going quite deeply into religion and science. I’ll be summarising what it has taken me decades to learn. If you decide to give this lecture a miss, I won’t blame you one bit. It will be enough if you can take it from me that you truly are an embodiment of love. And as an embodiment of love, you can help to make the world go round a lot more smoothly than it does. If you really take that to heart, you can skip this lecture and mark it as read.
Drawing on the Christian religion, because this is the one I’m most familiar with, there is the Christ figure, there is the Holy Trinity of which the Christ, the “son”, is part – Father, Son and Holy Spirit, according to the (patriarchal, remember) Christian church teachings.
The Christ is said to be the Only Begotten, and Jesus, who embodied full Christhood 2000 years ago, said that for us, the kingdom of heaven is within.
As an embodiment of the Christ, Jesus demonstrated unconditional, self-sacrificing love through service to mankind, compassion, forgiveness, healing, and so on, and urged us to do the same, saying that we could do the same as he did, and more.
And that we should love and serve others, as he loved and served us.
If Christ is the Only Begotten, and Christ was the only thing that was ever begotten, or created by God, and the kingdom of heaven is within us and we could do the same as he did, doesn’t that mean that we are all part of the Only Begotten and we must all have the Christ DNA within us, for us to realise and actualise it?
The Christian church does not teach us to be Christ, at most it teaches us to be Christ-like, or like Jesus who it sees as the one and only Christ; at least, the mainstream Christian churches teach that, to the best of my knowledge; so, in case you thought I might be evangelising for the Christian Church you can see that I’m not, because I don’t agree with the Church in that crucial regard,. However, that’s not to say that I don’t see that there are some essential truths in the Christian teachings, as I have discovered for myself through other avenues than the Christian church teachings. I’m going to explain those same truths from two, very different approaches to understanding life and who we are. This will help us to understand that we can connect our spiritual being with the very source of creation, in the here and now. In Christian terms, if the kingdom of heaven is within us, and we are made in the likeness of God, the love we have to give is the love of God.
Where do we see the same essential truths expressed in other ways?
Albert Einstein was one of many scientists who believed that there must be a creator of the universe, whom they may have called God, because they could see from the mathematical precision, consistency and beauty of the universe, of nature and the laws of nature that there must be an inconceivably vast, purposeful intelligence behind it.
In the Resources section of this lecture there is a link to a list of scientists who believed in God for such scientifically-considered reasons.
My own studies took me some years ago to a website which I mentioned earlier. It’s called The Revelatorium. It publishes a work on what is called ‘sacred geometry’ and it describes the multi-dimensional universe. It describes in detail the mathematical creation of the universe. I’m not going to urge you to read this work, because it’s extremely heavy reading, but if you wish to, please be my guest. There’s a link to the website, www.revelatorium.com in the Resources section.
The work was compiled by a small group of people known as gnostics; gnostic means possessing spiritual knowledge which one gains through revelation, meditation, intuition and deep thinking, going so deep within that one literally accesses knowledge at its source. Generally gnostics do not belong to any mainstream religion but forge the path to the ultimate truth by themselves.
This particular work, The Revelatorium, describes in detail the geometric creation of the universe.
It starts with a cube which contains a sphere, representing, respectively, what they consider to be the divine feminine and divine masculine energies, that is, the Divine Mother and the Divine Father, which came together in love to create their Only Begotten Son, or Son and Daughter combined, which is the Christ. And that is the only thing, the only begotten, that the Divine Mother and Divine Father ever created.
From that point onwards, it is the internal energy, intrinsic dynamics and geometric patterning of the Christ which gives rise to the entire manifest creations, physical and non-physical, multiple universes in multiple dimensions.
This shows that the Christ is at the heart of all living beings, physical and nonphysical. It is possible for us to fully realise, and actualise, ourselves as Christ, in what is called Christ Consciousness.
This echoes what Jesus said. He himself was fully realised as the Christ, and embodied the Christ. He was in Christ Consciousness. When he said that we can do all that he did, and more, he was saying that we too can realise, and actualise, ourselves as the Christ embodied, in our body, each of us, every one of us.
So that’s another source of knowledge suggesting who we really are, from outside of the mainstream, established Christian Church and, as far as I know, any mainstream religion.
A third body of knowledge saying the same thing, that is, that we ourselves can find our source at the very point of creation of the universe, is the Vedic knowledge from ancient India.
I studied this when I was with the Transcendental Meditation group practising yogic flying. This study was called Vedic Science. “Vedic” means from the Veda. “Veda” means understanding of the sacred.
The Veda explains how the whole of creation and the laws of nature emerge from the unmanifest, invisible, formless state of absolute pure being in a highly systematic way. The Veda is an inconceivably sophisticated body of knowledge, said to be a revelation from the Hindu god Brahma to the sages and seers of India some 3000 years ago.
Some modern scientists have developed what Einstein in his day tried to develop but failed, namely an understanding of the ultimate, fundamental point of creation, namely a Unified Field. They have shown that their formulae for creation, called the Lagrangian for the Unified Field, are identical to the Vedic formulae for creation, despite the totally different languages.
This is another way of showing us what our source is, and who we really are at the most fundamental level of ourselves. We are part of the absolute pure being of life, expressing itself through its own creative intelligence in all that we see in the manifest creation, which includes ourselves.
We are therefore a very great deal more than we have been led to believe. And, being part of the whole scheme of creation, we have access to the creative intelligence and organising power of life; the motive power of which is love.
So, I’m going to put it to you now, that you, in this present life of yours, in this body of yours, and in the spirit or soul which you are in the nonphysical field of life, you are an embodiment of love, that is created by love and you have within yourself the love of the creator that you are part of. And so there you have it.
Lecture 43 : The Power Of Love To Make Things Happen
When you associate yourself with the creator of the universe, when you recognise that you are part of that, when you know that you have a connection to the creative intelligence and organising power of the creator, when you know that the love of the creator runs through you, then you realise that you have access to a great deal of power to make good things happen.
When you identify yourself more and more as Spirit, as individualised Spirit, or soul, you recognise that you have a great deal of power at your disposal, and a great deal of responsibility to use it wisely, constructively, for the good of all; then you’ll also want to know how to use the power of the love that you, in this life, are an embodiment of.
And increasingly, you want to get this right.
It’s important, therefore, that you develop the relationship between the driver of your mind and body – your ego – and your soul; and between your soul and the greater spirit, the love and creative intelligence and organising power of the universe, or the creator, if you will.
It’s really important that you live increasingly as your soul, rather than as your ego. I’ve found that it takes quite a time to hold your ego in its proper place, as a tool for your soul. The ego has a history, and baggage, a lot of attachment to the identity that it has created for itself; which is to say that you, identifying yourself as your ego, have created for yourself.
I learnt about 25 years ago that it’s important to live as a soul, instead of as an ego. My ego still has a life of its own and will assert itself pretty vociferously. However, I’m much more likely nowadays to recognise that it’s simply my ego misbehaving, and I can see what it’s doing, and override it when it’s telling me something that’s inappropriate.
For example, when I’ve been making the “talking head” videos that you’re seeing in this course, my ego is sitting here wondering whether I’m looking good. My soul will say to it, what the heck, what’s important is whether I’m teaching people something useful, and what I’m looking like isn’t important. Yet I’ll still put some effort into looking okay; is that ego or is it sensible that I look presentable, and show respect to my students? That’s the kind of dynamic between the ego and the soul which still persists and can be useful; and it’s not appropriate to put the ego away in a box and lock it up forever. The ego needs to be honoured as a useful tool.
So you need to know the difference between what your ego is doing and what your soul is doing, and usually you would give preference to the soul, which you can have a lot more confidence in.
You will also find it a great relief to let go of the fears of the ego; it can be so debilitating when your ego feels itself under threat, as it does most of the time. It should have appropriate fears, to keep you safe; but fearing that you will be criticised is not appropriate; if someone’s criticism of you is justified, simply learn from it; if you know that someone’s criticism is not justified, take no notice, don’t let your ego feel insulted, belittled or humiliated – that’s simply not appropriate.
So develop a healthy ego, and a healthy relationship between your ego and your soul. Put your soul in the driving seat. And let it drive you with love, which is how it drives.
That part of you that is soul has a life of its own too, very much so, and you need to learn what your life as a soul is all about. You do this by paying a lot of attention to what your soul is doing in this life, your life.
You can do this by looking at your life as a whole, and seeing the direction of your life which your soul may be guiding you along; and listening to the quiet voice within, which speaks to you as your thoughts, whether in your everyday life, or deep meditation or in dreams; your intuitions, your feelings, and by calling for your attention in all sorts of ways; for example if you find your attention suddenly drawn to something, for example something that’s happening in your body, or in your surroundings, on TV or in the newspaper, then you might wonder if your soul is drawing your attention for some reason; and a thought might pop into your mind that tells you something useful.
So start learning how to listen to your soul, and start developing a relationship with the universe, or the creator, or Cosmic Creative Intelligence, whatever you choose to call it.
And as for the universe, or whoever or whatever you think of as its creator, this is who or what we pray to, isn’t it, or to someone who we believe can answer our prayers, such as Jesus in the case of Christians; we can hear or see the answers to our prayers, or questions, if we will seek and we will find.
We need to develop a close and healthy relationship with the universe if we are to fulfil our potential as a loving soul, which means discovering fully who we are, recognising how powerful we are, and becoming the means through which universal, infinite and unconditional love, and some of its works, can be expressed in this physical, material world. Which means you don’t have to call on God or Jesus for everything; you can make some things happen yourself. You are the Christ. You can do all the things that Jesus did, and more, as he said you could. You just need to work at it – with love.
Lecture 44 : The Road Ahead
Having recognised that we are a great deal more than we might has thought of ourselves before, we need to get it all together and have some thoughts about where we go from here.
We’ve got our ego in its proper place, its proper role, as a tool for our soul in this life, in which role it’s going to be a lot more satisfied than it was when it had no proper sense of direction or purpose other than one which it created for itself from the illusions of this world. Now, as a messenger of love, it can feel totally fulfilled.
You are now more established in yourself as a spiritual soul, which has a purpose and immense power to fulfil that purpose, which you will do primarily through love.
What will this mean for your everyday life, and the direction you will take on the road ahead?
Actually, you don’t need to do very much because, as an embodiment of love, you will radiate your love everywhere you are. You don’t need to go anywhere. Everyone will feel your love and will feel the better for it. Regardless of what age you are, young, middle-aged or elderly, you will have a very beneficial influence in your environment.
You will have a positive impact on the collective consciousness in your surroundings, without doing a single thing. It’s not a matter of doing, it’s a matter of being.
You are love, which the people in your world need. If it is your soul’s purpose to be a loving presence in this world, you could hardly have a better purpose. It is what the world needs, always, and especially at this present time.
But if you feel you need to be doing something, rather than just being, then by all means do something.
You could, for example, contribute a great deal to good in the world if you were to become active in your community. There will be lots of ways you can do this. Being kind, doing kind things for people; giving a smile and greeting to someone you pass in the street. Being a member of a local organisation.
A word of caution here, though, you need to establish your own boundaries. You need to decide how much you are going to do and be prepared to say “sorry, no” if you are asked to do something more than you’re happy to do. That’s a tough one, because there’s always more to do. You can’t do it all, even if you want to.
One way of doing more, whether it’s in your local community or elsewhere in the world is to contribute to other organisations.
Without spending any money, you could contribute to good causes simply by lending your support, by signing petitions or offering some other kind of help. In the Resources section of this lecture I’m giving some links to good causes which you can sign up to online, so that you’ll be alerted to new causes that you might like to support.
Some of these good causes invite you to donate money towards them. If you’ve got money to spare, there could hardly be a better way to use it. There are some fantastic things going on in the world which are stuck for lack of money; the Internet provides an excellent channel to raise money to make these good things happen.
If you want to become more directly engaged in changing the world, there are many opportunities to do that, locally and further afield.
Locally, you could start a tree-planting club, for example, as a way to contribute to reducing Global Climate Change or just to beautify your neighbourhood. Or join a Transition Network to help create local self-sufficiency. Or you could go further afield by flying to Costa Rica, for example, and help restore the tropical rainforest there, to help reduce Climate Change even faster then you can at home, as well as helping to protect the biodiversity – the animals and birds etc., that have been badly impacted by the destruction of the rainforests, destroyed so that we can have beef-burgers and palm oil, etc.
There are many pressing political issues, and economic injustices that need to be addressed. If you want to get involved in any of these things, you’d need to do some study first. But if you already have some idea of what goes on in these areas, you’ll know that it takes a lot to change things without getting involved in some heavy-duty protesting.
Or you could get involved in awareness-raising if you don’t want to put yourself at risk.
If you’re not quite ready to find yourself on TV and in the newspapers, then I’d say, “Join the club that I’m a member of.” Not many of us are willing to put ourselves in the public eye, though somebody needs to do it.
Love will find a way, as the cliche goes, and it’s very true. You’ll find yourself wanting to do things that before now hadn’t even come on to your radar. You need to give some thought as to what you would most like to do, and what resources, in time, money, knowledge, support from others, and so on, you can draw upon to support that kind aspiration, or intention.
I’d refer you back to the lecture on “The Law of Attraction” to help guide you in what you would like to do.
The road ahead is long but it begins with a single step; and, as the man said, “Well begun is half done”. Cliches, so many cliches. But so true.
Guided by love, you will find the going easy.
And if love be with you, who can be against you?
Lecture 45 : You, As The Embodiment Of Love
You’ve always been on a journey. As a spiritual soul you have always been on a journey, which is towards expanding your horizons, becoming more aware of what life is about, becoming more competent in life, and contributing more to the unfolding of life in all its potentials.
In this lifetime you may not have been very aware of this, though you’re aware that you’re always learning, even though you may not be at school any more. We never stop learning, do we.
The journey, or process of learning and gaining experience and competence is one which normally proceeds in fits and starts, and usually fairly slowly through one’s life. However, one can more consciously and deliberately, make the journey go faster, in leaps and bounds.
When you decided to learn to love more, you accelerated your journey immensely. Mainly, you are increasing your competence in the spiritual dimension of life. Love comes from the spirit and is part of your being, a big part of your spiritual being. So you are journeying now in the spiritual dimension of your life, learning about it and becoming competent with it.
You already had a good sense that you are a member of your family, a member of your community, of your nation, a member of humanity living on a planet in a solar system, which is in a galaxy, which is one of many, many galaxies in a universe. As you discovered the reality of these things your frame of reference for yourself expanded, and your mind expanded, and your competence to live in this greater frame of reference expanded.
You also had some sense, from what you were taught in your religion, or have heard about, or read about, that there is a spiritual dimension beyond this physical world; but you may not have understood where it is, what it is, and whether it is of any real relevance to you, in this lifetime. You might, though, have some sense of it as another dimension of life that is a frame of reference even greater than the physical universe, which you have yet to learn about, have experience of, and gain some competence in.
Equally, if we go in the other direction, we know there are smaller and smaller things in the universe such as molecules and atoms and even smaller things which only scientists know much about. These things do, however, help us to understand how the physical universe works.
And now, through the scientific understanding which has been developed only over the last century or so, we can see that there is nothing beyond the smallest particle other than pure energy and, presumably, some intelligence, that gave rise to this whole universe. In other words, perhaps, the field beyond the smallest particle is what we might call spiritual just as in the field beyond in the universe is spiritual too.
This journey, or process, of gaining understanding and competence in bigger and bigger frames of reference is often called “consciousness raising”. We raise our consciousness when we increase our awareness about things, whether we’re talking about the spiritual dimensions or an Issue, say, a political issue which we are becoming increasingly conscious of, knowledgeable about, competent to deal with, and so on.
People who are interested in consciousness-raising very often talk about “raising your vibration”. What does this mean? Well, everything in the universe vibrates at a frequency.
Even a stone, or rock, can be seen to have some life in it, some electrical activity, even though at a very low level, in the molecules of its substance. By contrast, a tree would seem to be much more alive, because there is more activity of life within it. As we go up the chain of life, especially towards the activity of mind, as seen in the electrical activity in the human brain, the frequency and so-called vibration increases.
The higher the vibration, the more one is at a higher and higher level of life, generally, with more energy. This might be energy in the brain, in the heart or even in some of the higher faculties of the human nervous system which might give rise to unusual abilities such as clairvoyance and other things that I don’t know enough to speak about.
Anyway, what I’m coming around to is to say that learning to love will give you a tremendous increase in your level of consciousness, and in your vibration, enough to enable your nervous system to work much more holistically, giving you better health and better sense of well-being, mood and confidence, and positivity, which can’t be a bad thing, can it.
I’d go as far as to say that love is the fastest route to a much higher level of consciousness for just about anyone. Love is one of the highest vibrations there is, one of the most exalted energies, capable of opening the heart which is the door to an altogether higher state of spirituality.
This leads to an ever-present joy and a sublime peace, which lead ever onwards toward the highest state of enlightenment, the highest state of being, Christ Consciousness.
You think it must be difficult to achieve Christ Consciousness? It isn’t so difficult.
You need to accept that Christ Consciousness is the root of your spiritual being, and part of your DNA, so to speak, and then start living as this is so, to reinforce your understanding that this is so; it won’t be so long before you are actualising your Christ Consciousness in higher and higher degrees in your outer life.
In the Resources section of this lecture I’m giving a link to the work of a psychiatrist by the name of David Hawkins who developed a scale of consciousness which describes what I’m saying. He too says that moving into love is a crucial stage of personal development, after which “progression into increasingly higher states is very natural and less challenging.” This certainly is my own experience.
You are an embodiment of love, though you may feel you have not realised it, in the sense of actualising it in your own outward life.
By taking this step of learning to love more, doing the exercises I am offering, and opening your mind to the new horizons I am pointing towards, you will realise it very soon.
Hawkins stresses that each person has the capacity to have significant influence on the well-being of society by giving priority to the progression of their individual consciousness.
Lecture 46 : And So The World Is Changed
“What the world needs now is love, sweet love, it’s the only thing that there’s just too little of.” – as Hal David wrote in the song he published with Burt Bacharach in 1965.
“Love, love changes everything, hands and faces, Earth and sky. Love, love changes everything, how you live and how you die.” – a song from “Aspects Of Love” composed by Andrew Lloyd Webber, with lyrics written by Charles Hart and Don Black.
How many popular songs have told us that we need to love more, that there needs to be more love in the world? “A million love songs later, and here I am trying to tell you.” – Gary Barlow
The world changes when people love more. It changes in all sorts of ways, people smiling at each other more, being more kind to each other, and people tackling some of the biggest issues that bedevil our world.
When people love more there’s not just more love, there’s more sorrow too, because we wake up to how we feel about the suffering we see in the world. We want to do something about that. If we can, even in small ways, we do it. The more we open our eyes, minds and hearts to the suffering in the world, the more we feel it. And the more we want to do something about it. And as we do so, the suffering begins to be alleviated.
It’s what the world needs now.
When our hearts open, we become more of who we really are; not only more human, but more spiritual. We develop a larger frame of reference for ourselves, and a larger sphere of influence. We become more responsible, both for ourselves and for others. We become more mature in our relationships with others. And so world is changed, by one person at a time. You.
We live in an amazing time, when we have the Internet and our own devices for connecting with the Internet and communicating through it, with friends and strangers near at hand and all over the world.
People in the remotest places in the world are getting online. The whole world is getting online. The opportunities this offers are staggering in their implications for how we can get the world to change. The possibilities that wouldn’t even have entered our minds, or if they did would be thought to be beyond us to do anything about, are now brought right in front of our eyes, with that solution a few clicks of the keyboard away.
And what motivates us to help alleviate the problems in the world is our love, without which we wouldn’t do anything; the problems would simply float away, as we turn our attention to something else of interest to us.
Now, though, with more love in our hearts, and the means put before us, we don’t hesitate to do what we can. And so the world is changed, not just by the existence of the Internet, but by our willingness to use it to give the world some of our loving.
The more people there are who are loving more, the faster the world will change. The collective consciousness will become more loving, and everyone within that collective consciousness will find their heart opening more. The expression “we are all one” is true at the spiritual level; we are all part of that single, spiritual consciousness that gave rise to the universe as we know it. We can’t escape the fact that we have an impact upon, and are impacted by, the oneness of consciousness.
So when we become more loving, so does everyone else, to some degree or another. You’re not learning to love more and being the only one to benefit from it, you’re giving the benefit of becoming more loving to the whole world, to some degree or another.
And so the world is changed.
Section 10 : Course Conclusion
Lecture 47 : Course Conclusion
By this stage of the course, we would know that love is a great deal more than most of us generally think it is, even though we already appreciate love greatly wherever we can find it, or in whatever way we feel it.
We will also have discovered that we ourselves are a very great deal more than we generally think we are, and the two, our love and who we are, are deeply connected.
We are essentially spiritual beings, rather than being essentially physical, and love is the way in which our spirit, and the greater Spirit of which we are part, moves. In the same way that we feel love motivating us, the whole of life is motivated by that same love, in accordance with the “As Above, So Below” principle.
That principle, identified by the god Hermes, who according to ancient Greek myth was the personification of universal wisdom, states that “That which is above is like that which is below and that which is below is like that which is above”; like a hologram, as I said before; so, as love is the motive power of humans, so it is of the universe.
It has been important that we identify ourselves primarily as spirit, as a soul, because in our being a soul, a spiritual soul, we can more readily recognise that we are somehow connected through the greater spirit, which is the one basis for all of life, connected with the whole of life and with each other, and we are essentially the same, naturally in a state of spiritual unity with each other and everything.
Our sense of separateness from everyone and everything, which comes from being physical as well as spiritual, is an illusion; an illusion which is responsible not just for our sense of separateness, but also the barriers we set up between ourselves, and all the lack of love and lack of unity we can see everywhere around us. It’s crucially important that we see beyond the illusion to the reality that we all are part of the one life, all motivated by love, all unified, and all wanting our lives to be an expression of life itself, expressing the universal, infinite and unconditional love which is its nature, and our nature.
Now that we recognise that we have that greater love with us, we need to open our hearts to everyone and everything. This course has offered you techniques for opening your heart. As you practice these, and you feel your heart opening, you will feel not only your own love, but the love of others in your world.
Also, you’ll experience more positive things are happening in your life; more synchronicities, more fortunate coincidences, things happening more easily for you. You are tapping into the organising power that love has. The universal love that motivates the whole of creation is yours to use, and with which you can create as you intend.
So, as a consequence of you learning to love more, and recognising yourself to be more, much more, than you had realised before, your life is opening up to far more possibilities and opportunities than before.
It’s to be expected that you will feel better for loving more, that you’ll feel more confident, more positive, more capable, more relaxed and more self-responsible, and more self-sufficient in your own personal wealth in terms of what you can give to others in various ways.
It’s to be expected also that you’ll feel better for knowing more about who you really are, that you are a soul, with an existence beyond your physical body, connected to the whole of life and being able to draw on the resources of the whole of life; that as a soul you have an essential unity with everyone and everything, enabling you to get over any of the barriers that we erect between ourselves and others, so you can now better appreciate and enjoy the differences and dissimilarities between yourself and others whilst not losing sight of the essential unity between you.
I hope and trust that you are now enjoying the new perspectives I’ve invited you to take up, and you’re seeing results that you feel are directly some results from this course; and therefore you will want to continue practising the various techniques and observations I’ve offered you. You can consider this to be an ongoing course, not just in the sense of you benefiting increasingly from what I’ve offered you, but also in you being able to interact with myself as course instructor, and with other students through the questions and chat features that you can use. My commitment to you is to continue to be available to you, helping you to transform your own life and your wider world also.
Lecture 48 : And Finally…
And finally, I want to thank you, from my heart to yours, for completing this course.
I hope that you’ve opened to a greater vision of love in many parts of your life, helping you to become all that you can be; and you’ve appreciated the power that love has to make very good things happen.
I wouldn’t dream of leaving you to your own devices after I’ve taken you on such a long journey to a place you may never have been before. I’m still with you, and here is where I plan to stay.
As I said in the last piece, I want to make myself available for ongoing dialogue, both through the questions and discussions feature, and also through a live chat feature that I’m going to organize.
So it’s not goodbye.
Maybe we can do some great things together; I’ve stressed the importance of groups, and the extra power that groups have when people share a common intention and can work together in a spirit of love. I’d love to commit my energy, at least in spirit, to support your group’s great intentions.
So please keep in touch, and let’s go forward together, in the spirit of love for each other, and love for all that is.
Thank you very much.